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Tik Tok - can I ask you a personal question?

28 replies

skinnymini · 20/04/2009 22:44

And please do report this if you consider this post to be any kind of personal attack - it really is not intended as such.

I was wondering though, I only ever see you on MN in your capacity as b/f counsellor. I don't think I've ever seen you talk about your own experiences of parenting, including feeding your own infants.

I wondered if I'm wrong (please feel free to tell me I am, I may well be, I haven't searched the archives, I just go by a couple of years experience of MN).

Or, if you do come on here, solely as a b/f counsellor, if you never feel that MN may have something to offer you personally as a parent?

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PresidentTaylor · 20/04/2009 22:49

Maybe she talks about other stuff under another name for privacy reasons? I sometimes do this (am a reguar name changer though none of mine are 'recognisable' names).

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skinnymini · 20/04/2009 22:52

Yes, this is one of the things I'd considered, just wondered if it was the case.

Just makes for a very two dimensional character on here, unfortunately. No idea if she has DS', DDs or what - so little is forthcoming.

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Twinklemegan · 20/04/2009 22:53

If I were posting on a site in a professional capacity I'd certainly use a different identity for any more personal/fun posting. Wouldn't you?

MamacitaGordita · 20/04/2009 23:48

I think she once posted about knitting...! Enigmatic...

Her advice though, regardless of personal background/info, is always first rate, well researched, and sensitive. So that's all that matters, really.

Stretch · 20/04/2009 23:52

Surely everybody would be saying, "Oh TikTok, can I ask you blah blah?" right in the middle of a bumsex different kind of thread altogether!!

oopsagain · 21/04/2009 00:03

I've seen her on all sorts of threads over the last 5yrs.
But more recntly, i've not been here so much- and i've mainly seen her on breast feediing threads.
So i do think you are being a bit impertinent. but maybe she'll ahve something else to say .

PortAndLemon · 21/04/2009 00:46

She has posted on knitting, Christmas, teenagers, Freecycle, childminders and random TV programs.

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skinnymini · 21/04/2009 07:15

Impertinent? She's not the queen

I just don't think I've ever heard her post about her own experiences of breastfeeding - so her posts always come across to me as rather clinical.

I'll do a search though as I may be wrong.

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JollyPirate · 21/04/2009 07:18

She is very knowledgeable regarding breast feeding and it's fabulous to have such a good source of advice around.

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skinnymini · 21/04/2009 07:27

Tiktok is an excellent person to have on the breastfeeding boards.

I'm just curious about her, that's all. A lot of those posts in other topics seem to be v old - I just wondered if she is just the resident b/f expert or goes anywhere else.

I don't think I'd get my knickers in a twist if someone asked me something like that - but as I said at the start she's free to report the thread if she finds it offensive.

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tiktok · 21/04/2009 07:48

skinnymini, I am not offended by your question!

Yes,I keep details to myself for privacy reasons.

Staying anon also means I am not in any sense 'representing' NCT - I can remain myself and respond in a barbed or scathing way to the posters who deserve it

I have v. occasionally posted under this name in other threads. I am sure I have said I have three children who were all bf - no longer. I do paid work and have the sort of work that allows me to decide for myself I can post on here. I don't post anywhere else.

Why do I post on mumsnet about breastfeeding? Well, it's not for the glory I am anonymous and I don't think there are more than one or two other people in RL who know who I am (for all I know, one or two more in NCT have guessed, but no one has ever said to me, 'are you tiktok?')

I learn a huge amount on here which helps me in my role as an NCT breastfeeding counsellor - but as that is mainly voluntary it's of no personal gain to me. Breastfeeding counselling is a part of my life I value, however. I value people being informed about breastfeeding, and I try to be part of that.

Hope that helps and sorry to be a mystery but that's not gonna change!

Thanks for the nice things said on this thread, BTW

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skinnymini · 21/04/2009 07:50

Tiktok, thanks for that

That has satisfied my curiosity.

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foxytocin · 21/04/2009 08:12

I've heard that TT has v hairy hands...

fishie · 21/04/2009 08:21

tiktok i can quite see why you'd want to preserve your anonymity and independence (and integrity!) when posting here.

i do think it is a bit of a shame that the nct don't know about all your work here, you have helped enormous numbers of women both directly and indirectly.

or am i being naive and they know all about the caped internet bf counsellor but not who you are?

tiktok · 21/04/2009 08:29

fishie, no idea if they know or not Nothing has ever been said or posted about that I have seen, anyway. I prefer it that way. They might start telling me off when I get cross (with the people who deserve it, of course ).

jimmyjimjams · 21/04/2009 08:38

I am also an NCT BFC and I think I know tiktok is .

Have name-changed because I also want to stay anon, but don't post on the bf threads because of the wonderful tiktok!

tiktok · 21/04/2009 08:49

Zounds! Uncovered!

jimmy, I have no idea who you are, so I'll shut up if you'll shut up

And please post here if you want to!

jimmyjimjams · 21/04/2009 08:52

Was planning on saying nowt else anyway

Will post if it's helpful.

tiktok · 21/04/2009 08:57

Of course post....why not?

jimmyjimjams · 21/04/2009 08:59

Because I'm terrified of forgetting to namechange and then compromise my integrity as a BFC - I'm such a dunce!

I think I've worked out a way to do it though so fingers crossed!

Lulumama · 21/04/2009 09:03

i hvae promise to take tiktok out for tea and cake should she ever be in the area... her sterling work on breastfeeding speaks for itself, she doesn;t need to say owt else!!

however, a name change to tiktokTheEnigma might be in order.

i think it is wise to protect ones privacy .. and not post on bumsex threads !

chequersmate · 21/04/2009 09:33

Tiktok I didn't realise you were an NCT breastfeeding counsellor so I totally take back what I said on the other thread now about how I wouldn't approach the NCT for b/f advice due to bad experiences with their an classes.

Contact with you has definitely convinced me that there are good NCT bfcs out there.

tiktok · 21/04/2009 09:59

chequersmate.

Most of us are good, but none of us are perfect all the time.

If someone has a bad experience with an NCT bfc, they should let NCT know.

mistlethrush · 21/04/2009 10:12

I had a wonderful bf councellor... I wonder if you're her

(Disclaimer - only link the wonderful advice Tiktok!)

foxytocin · 21/04/2009 10:35

?Why? for instance would she (CBC) say this little gem from this own websites ?Your Breastfeeding Problems Solved? pages?
?If you went under a bus tomorrow she would have to give up breastfeeding and take a bottle, so I do not think it is cruel to teach a baby to take a bottle as well as a breast and cup?

Because the chances of someone going under a bus is small enough that it doesn't warrant the bother? possibly?

yes statistically, it has occurred but what are the odds? hmm?

and what about the more likely risk of nipple confusion in the early days? greater than going under a bus me thinks.

oh, apologies. CBC doesn't think nipple confusion exists. and she is the guru.