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10 wk old stopped evening crying, but replaced with night feeds every 2 hrs - argh!

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AnotherMuesliPleaseBarman · 12/04/2009 08:43

Sorry - long explanation below:

My DS initially fed every 3 hrs, though this increased to every 1.5 hrs at around 6 weeks old, which I put down to a 'growth spurt'. Though I've tried to space them out again with playing, distractions etc, he's never really got back to the 3 hr intervals, and seems to want to feed every 2hrs during the day. He'll usually feed from both sides, taking 30-45 mins to do so.

He has also been howling during the evening from around 5.30pm, and this has become quite bad recently, though we've always been able to calm him down eventually, ready to be swaddled at around 8.30pm.

2 nights ago, the evening crying stopped, which was great, and meant we could do a nice, relaxed wind-down to bed time with him. However, this has coincided with him waking up every 2 hrs for a feed at night, which he wasn't doing before. Sometimes he takes a full feed, both sides, and sometimes he falls asleep after a few minutes.

Leaving him to settle on his own doesn't seem to work - once he's wiggled, grunted and flailed around to the point where his eyes are open, he starts gearing up to cry, so I have to pick him up and feed him.

Our nights used to look like this:

5.30pm+ crying / trying to settle / feeding
8-9pm to bed
2am feed
5am feed
6-7am get up

Now they look like this:

8-9pm to bed
11pm feed
1am feed
3am feed
5am feed
6am often awake from then on

He's putting on weight nicely, so isn't going short. Is this frequency of feeding (particularly at night) likely to continue for long? Is it common at this age? Is it likely that there is a link between stopping evening crying and increased wakefulness at night? (I'm sure all that howling must have worn him out). I had been pleased that he was sleeping pretty well at night, but now my boobs are sore and I can barely stay awake during feeds! He's currently swaddled in a crib next to me in our room and I'm thinking of moving him to a cot in the other room soon. Maybe a little distance from me might help?

What do people think?

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Tryharder · 12/04/2009 09:04

Don't put him in another room!!! He's still so, so little - he just wants to be with his mummy, he's not doing this on purpose or trying to wind you up.

I think it is common for bf babies to feed frequently through the night - mine certainly do/did and it gets worse with growth spurts.

I mean, different strokes for different folks and all that, but I would personally toss your routine out of the window and just go with the flow. Have you tried co sleeping? The ability to latch my baby on and go back to sleep has saved my sanity at times.

I am a bit bemused about the evening crying because do you have any idea why was he crying??? Was he hungry?

At the risk of sounding a bit rude - sorry -you sound a little bit "hung up" on your baby being in a routine or adhering to certain patterns of behaviour and I would advise you to relax about it all, sleep when your baby sleeps and "listen to your baby". If he's feeding more in the nights, it's because either he needs the nutrition or he wants the comfort. And how can you deny him that???

RoseOfTheOrient · 12/04/2009 09:14

My DD fed 2 hourly, round-the-clock until she was one. It is not really so unusual.
Also, "a little distance from you" will only mean that you will have to drag your tired self further to get to him when he needs feeding at night. You will exhaust yourself.
We co-slept, and I managed to feed lying down which helped.

AnotherMuesliPleaseBarman · 12/04/2009 09:15

Thanks for responding. The only reason I'm thinking about moving him to a cot is because he's almost outgrown his crib! (arms touch sides when not swaddled and he flails quite enthusiastically and bashes the sides!). The cot is in the other room and may not fit in ours.

Not sure co-sleeping is for us - I wouldn't be able to sleep, and DH has a tendency to roll over unexpectedly.

Not that I'm saying I'm relaxed about it, or that there may not be a good reason, but I thought that a spate of evening crying was fairly common with babies this age?

I don't think I'm 'hung up' on routines but may be trying to make sense of something that it isn't possible to make sense of. but wondered why the change all of a sudden, and the frequency is making me sore. I'm certainly not denying him! Maybe I just have to grin and bear it {smile]

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