Nursing a toddler - what do you call it??

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Ds used to call it, "Boobies," (thanks dh) and I managed to get him onto calling it "Milkies," but now he's 2 I'm feeling a bit oversensitive about him tugging at my top and asking for "Milkies" or "Mama milkies" while we're out and about, especially as he's asking more since dd was born.

Also, should I stop nursing him in public? We nursed in the Tesco cafe the other day, because i was nursing dd and he asked but I felt very exposed and not comfortable at all. Has anyone got any tips on how to put him off until we get home?

Bump??

DS used to call it num nums.

'Mothering your nursing toddler' from LLL has some good tips on establishing nursing manners

I lent my copy to a friend as i thought ds had weaned! I'll have to get it off her, we definitely need a code word, not least because we're off to the IL's this weekend and I just can't be arsed explaining why ds is clambering all over me demanding milkies!!

Theres some tips on Kellymom too.

Num nums was quite good as some people thought he was just saying mum mum

DD calls it moresies. It's handy as noone knows what she's talking about (until she shoves her hand down my top, that is )

Dibbler - my friend's ds calls it num nums.

Now, how the hell do I get ds to change his name for it at 2??!

DD (3) calls it boo-boo.
It's very very rare for me to nurse her in public now (at home or friend's/family's houses are ok), and she doesn't normally ask for it then, although at age 2 she still did. At that age it was often more discreet to feed than to have the tantrum that ensued if I refused. The good news is that she has got better . If you're in a cafe then could you distract him with his choice of cake/biscuit etc. Not ideal, but useful for a while whilst he gets used to not having milk.

My 22 month old just says "milk for me please?" I either oblige or say "when we get home" and it's fine. She also says "nice milk, thank you very much" afterwards.

CSWS- he didn't ask for it in public for ages, but when he sees dd nursing, he usually asks as well, and it's really bloody hard to nurse the two of them discreetly!

We call it Lo Lo, which works for us as people think she is saying Hello.

I read an article when I'd first had DS that said not to call it anything you would make you blush if your toddler shouted it in Tesco. As you may have a little cute baby now and only intend on feeding it for a few weeks or months but the baby may have other ideas.

Thought that this was probably one of the best bits of advice on bfing I ever got.

If you find out how to put them off until you get home will you let me know? DS was easy, I used to just tell him "no, we don't do that now do we". DD isn't so easily swayed.

Show, that is one polite baby!

Know what you mean rg - I'm tandem feeding too, and dd does have the odd strop or two when I turn her down and let ds have it. I presume that you'd feed one then the other in that situation, rather than both at once? Have you tried offering (or rather agreeing to) very short feeds when he asks in public? Dd now gets 'a count of 3' (or other negotiated number!) when she has it during the day.

CSWS - the trouble was that we didn't have the buggy with us and it was a way of containing him while i nursed dd (poor planning on my part, there ) so yes, i nursed them together. No-one commented (or even looked our way, as far as I could tell - I was looking down at the dc!) but I felt very uncomfortable! I'm getting the hang of nursing dd in the sling now, so hopefully if we're in that situation again I'll just be able to walk along with her, and be able to put him off till we get home!

Ineed - the reason we changed it from Boobies to Milkies was because I wasn't happy about him shouting BOOBIES in public! I didn't think about the larger issues surrounding him shouting MILKIES! (more fool me!)

I'm consistently calling it milkies and have done with DS since he was tiny. (Ok, we do lapse into boobies too sometimes!) He's still pre-verbal but I'm hoping he'll cotton on and say milkies. He is blindingly obvious about what he wants though - walking up to me and headbutting my chest, then sticking his arm down my bra.

I was very impressed by the DD of someone at music group (2.3, I think) who very clearly says 'breast!'. Proper names for proper things, etc. But there's no getting away from what she means!

Yep 'boobies' here too. Or just lately 'mummmy, I want to be a baby and have the baby milk again, not big girl milk, no I want the booby, that one , just a little bit plllleeeeaaazzzeeee' (complete with arms outstretched in urchin manner)

If I saw another mum on the receiving end of this diatribe I'd laugh but be sympathetic. However it's just bloody annoying when it's the fourth time in a day.

So I don't know. I stopped feeding her in public when she was two because I need to lie down to feed her because she's a giant and I can't hold her - she really is exceptionally big now. She's 2.4 btw. She was down to one feed a day until a week ago, then both she and DS got ill and now she's back up to asking constantly

It does get better though raising I promise. They do learn manners eventually. It took ages before she stopped saying 'look mummy, that lady has big boobies for milk' about women with obvious implants though

I thought that your dd had self-weaned wmmc? Did I imagine that, or did you think she had but then she started again?