Hi ya, got to agree with pippy - they will adapt. at 12 months my dd resolutely refused a bottle from me crying, sobbing and tugging at my clothes - cos she knew i would give in and bf! she was also adept at crying just long enough when dp fed her so i would give in as I could not cope with the crying and i would rush upstairs and feed her! No will power whatsoever on my part!
I had thought it would be easier to swop the night time feed first, but on the advice of the HV i started with the morning feed as she was so hungry by then she took the bottle ok after only a couple of tries - i was amazed - when she then asked for a bf i distracted her with cereal. Bedtime was another matter entirely - as mentioned above!!
so we went on holiday, stayed the first couple of nights with old school friend, so while dp was upstairs feeding dd I was downstairs distracted helping school friend cook dinner and downing my first glass of red wine for two years!
for the next part of the holiday i had to go for a walk at bedtime - as i am a total pushover. By the fourth night, I stayed in the apartment and listened, she was ok! on the fifth night she took a bottle from me!. Was pleased and hugely disappointed in equal measures. it was sad to stop feeding, felt like she did not need me anymore! i did cry too - silly!
stick with it, the easiest way is to get someone else to do it for you, as the baby can smell the breast milk and will cry cos that;s what they know will work and get them a bf - as an option my hv and doctor both suggested tablets to dry up my milk as then the baby doesn't get the cue to cry. I did not go for this as thought it bit drastic.
he really wont feel abandoned by you. plenty of cuddles don't need a feed too!