Selfish cry for support

[turtle23]

OK, DS is nearly 11 months, I am giving up cold turkey today. Haven't fed him since 5am(BF, that is...obviously!). He is being so very sweet today, keeps coming for cuddles and kisses and I am a hormonal mess. Please help me get through without cracking. I hate this. Been so weepy all day.

You have my sympathies - not looking forward to this at all. Sounds as though he isn't missing it - hope you feel better soon.

Oh bless!! Poor you and you are not being selfish.

If one more RL person says to me that they are so pleased that I am stopping I will flip. Just had yet another "you don't want him hanging off you when he is three, now, do you?" and I DO!!! I want him to feed for as long as he wants to. It is my own stupid selfishness that is stopping it. This is so blardy difficult.

why are you stopping?

Why do so many people have an opinion? How annoying for you. You don't sound selfish at all btw.

1. Been ttc for months and body not responding well. Have tried all sorts of messing about with feeds.
2. Am struggling very badly with insomnia. DS has been v bad sleeper and sleeps through 4 nights out of 7...just enoguh to keep me waking every 45 minutes regardless. Need to take a sleeper and get away.
3. He won't take milk out of anything else as I always cave.
4. I need to be able to leave him with others.
5. Milk seems to be going so is the time to do it.

Why are you stopping bf if you don't really want to?

turtle23, You sound like you are in two minds about breastfeeding but you are certainly not selfish for thinking about stopping nursing your 11 month old.

May I ask what do you think you are being selfish about ?

Having a thread just to make me feel better.

1. I was lucky enough to fall pregnant whilst breastfeeding...what does your doctor say ? Are you ovulating/having periods again ?
2. Just checking that weaning your DS won't increase his sleeping at night. Alternatively you could night wean him, so you can take sleeping pills and get a break. i.e. Get DH to offer water at night and still continue breastfeeding during the day. Night weaning may also kick start your ovulation cycles (if it needs it)
3. Nothing wrong with 'caving', though I would say that you are adapting to your childs needs.
4. Have you tried leaving him ? I ask as my children NEED to nurse if I am around but my toddler (from about a year old) has happily gone to bed without nursing if I am not there.
5. Why do you think your milk is going ? It is normal for your breasts to stop feeling full but will continue under normal circumstances to produce decent milk supply.

Sorry, just reread you OP. It would be much kinder on your breasts if you give up nursing by dropping one feed at a time. If you continue to give up via cold turkey, please consider hand expressing for your own comfort and monitor your breasts closely for red patches, lumps etc...you don't want to end a lovely nursing relationship with mastitis.

He IS night weaned. Only do three proper feeds a day. Periods are all over the place. No EWCM ever. I am stopping cold turkey because it is what works for me. I can't prolong it. Dr doesn't want to know as it is "unnatural" to BF after 6 months.
At the moment he just goes without if I leave him. I would like him to at least try to have other milk and he always holds out for mummy.

At your doctor's attitude.

Yes, my toddler does that, waits for my return. Mmm, have you tried cows milk as a drink ? Or maybe introduce more cheese and other calcium rich food.

Tried cow's milk. He won't actually even take EBM out of anything. We are resigned to yoghurts, cheese and broccoli I guess!

, and you can't say anything to the ignorant attitudes without admitting you're ttc, which no doubt they will have an opinion on as well!
Good for you for feeding so long, you are not being selfish.

What kind of sleeping pill can you take and still BF the next day?

Turtle I assumed you meant you took sleeping pill in your post on Sun 15-Feb-09 18:39:13. I have no idea which if any sleeping pills you can take if breastfeeding the next day.

Just meant this:

1. Just checking that weaning your DS won't increase his sleeping at night. Alternatively you could night wean him, so you can take sleeping pills and get a break. i.e. Get DH to offer water at night and still continue breastfeeding during the day.

LOL, I read your second post when you said that you "Need to take a sleeper and get away."

I read 'take a sleeper' to mean take a sleeping pill, from your reaction I take it you meant something else entirely different.

I did mean that..

turtle - i asked why you were stoppign and then totally left the thread - please don't hink i was loooking down my nose at you, you have done brilliantly, and never feel guilty about wanting to stop.

I was BF until a week ago - i fell pg but it didnt work out and my milk went too, but anyway, EWCM doesnt always happen if you are fertile, some women only get milky white cm and that is fertile. It is hard isn't it - i was and still am desperate to ttc, but i felt guilty too.

Are you having periods? And what a nasty attitude of your GP.

Turtle, If you need some help to sleep have you talked to your doctor ?

GP is an arse. Said if I had problems sleeping I should have a bath and a warm drink and be grateful that DS is asleep. Doesn't seem to realise that I am in a VERY BAD WAY and if I don't sleep soon I will end up with PND. Is v keen to give ad's "if that's what is wrong" but not able to give advice on how best to help me avoid it. This is the same GP that gave DH valium when he said he was a bit wary of flying. Grr. Apparently I am not allowed to even ask about sleeping pills.

Have you considered getting a second opinion from another GP ?

Or maybe have a chat with your HV, as she may have more specfic support/advice for you specially if you think you have or might be developing PND.