looking for some advice! breastfeeding dd, 7 mo. she has started being sick, i think i am overfeeding her

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my dd started on solids at 6mo exactly, and a week ago really got into it, now on 3 meals a day and eating quite a lot with great enjoyment-she loves sitting with ds, 2.6 at meals.

she never has accepted any expressed milk, so i have used this opportunity to drop one breastfeed a day, looking to have occaisional time to myself/ with son soon. now breastfeeding 3 times a day, first thing in morning, after her big afternoon sleep and before bed. i have cut down on her solid tea as this was affecting her willingness to take both breasts at bedtime.

my queries are - does she still need both breasts per feed? always has fed for up to an hour per feed, feel i am now the one encouraging her along.
yesterday and today has vomited a lot, once each day. no other symptoms, my hunch has been that she just too full. also getting a bit upset at solid breakfast-try to leave an hour between breastfeed and this.

am i getting balance of solids.breastmilk wrong?
am i over encouraging long feeds-ie keep offering when she not showing any signs of wanting more?

i am feeling quite engorged so wonder if this is an issue. she has always been a great if slow little feeder, not coping with this change and actually feel very upset i am not reading my little baby and her needs better

Don't worry it's a big change when we start weaning and can be quite an emotional time for us mums when we start dropping the breastfeeds and see that our little cherub doesn't need us as much! It sounds like you have the right idea and although they say a baby will stop taking milk when they are full, it may be that your little one hasn't quite registered that she doesn't need as much now. If it's any help, once my de was up to three meals a day I gave her just a very small feed first thing, maybe 5-10 mins and she had her breakfast around 30-60 mind later. I would then give her another small feed mid morning if I thought she was unsettled and then a feed before bed. She would have her lunch and dinner and her last breastfeed before bed was at 6.45 before putting her to bed at 7. So in a nutshell cut the amount pf she feeds and try to give it around 30-60 minutes before breakfast, then midmorning and then about 15 minutes before bed( couple of hours after dinner) to settle her. This way milk and food have had time to go down rather than giving it all at same time. My daughter would never take a bottle but by 9 months she was just having her bedtime feed and at 11 months I just stopped completely! She then drank milk and water from a cup
But was never a good drinker till now( she's 2 1/2 now!!). Don't worry though, it's trial and error and my way may not work but may be worth a go. Hope it helps.xx

Maybe you are right that she has been over fed, i can only compare with my 6.5 monthh dd. I stopped breast at 5 months so she is bottle feed with 3 meals a day.

She has started to take a lot less milk but in comparison is similar in timings as your dd. She has breakfast followed by about 5oz then water in beaker at lunch, milk after afternoon sleep today she only took about 4oz it used to be 7oz. Then tea at 5.30pm followed by milk at bedtime and she only took 3oz. She really didn't want any more milk and had been taking a lot more.

I'm sure that the need for as much milk reduces at this stage.

The engorgement will pass - i do sympathise though i hated that pain. I found having a hot bath helped and self expressing this can also help before a feed just to make it a little more comfortable for her.