Would you stop breastfeeding because

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My partner really wants me to stop breastfeeding my 22month old dd. He has been supportive until recently but now thinks its weird that she can ask for it. It really is causing arguments between us because I am happy to continue until she self weans. Has anyone had any similar problems? Thanks

yes i've got every book tried it all,nothing will soothe him, he jsut cries and cries till i feed , i even tried not to for 5 hours, just patting and sshhing and rocking and singing but he is very demanding. I have resigned myself to it, but when i stop bfing will he just start sleeping through?

kalo, how old is he?
tbh I found it much easier to just go with it and feed ds2 back to sleep and then roll him into his cot beside my bed.

The thing is - for some babies, the only thing that works is time and I'm sorry because I went through it myself and it was bloody hard and now I'm stupidly doing it again with DS and it is horrible and it is debilitating and hideously frustrating too.

Thing is, it's got bog all to do with the breastfeeding - he'd probably wake up if he was formula fed, he's just a wakeful baby I expect.

What is your feeling on why he's waking? Is it that he wants to be near you? Is it perhaps that you go to him very quickly when he cries (I did this with DD, with DS I wait a minute and see if he goes back to sleep). If you are on edge they do pick up on it.

Don't laugh, but I've got a copy of Paul McKenna's 'I can make you sleep' and I put the CD on to knock DS out - he's six months FFS and he can't possibly understand it but it's working right now and I'll clutch at any sodding straw which gets me an extra half hour without someone wailing!

Also have you considered if he's teething? DD teethed for four months and for the first two I didn't realise quite how uncomfortable she was until DH whopped her with some Calpol and she conked out for five hours .

agree with whomoved.

fwiw i did the NCSS with ds2 at about 9/10 months.
i stopped him breastfeeding to sleep. we cut down from every 1.5 hrs to just 2 or 3 feeds a night.

he STILL woke every 1.5 hours though. i just didn't have to feed him when he woke.

i think basically he wakes up in normal sleep cycles for his age - one year - he has always been fed back to sleep and he was a bad weaner cos of food sensitivities and so some of the time is genuinley hungry in the night. other times he just cannot get to sleep without the association of sucking - tho won't have dummy/bottle.

he is currently co sleeping as we went away for two weeks and i couldn't get him in his travel cot without waking him and now he won't go in his cot.

how old was your dc when they stopped bfing?

Can you get a partner to go to him when he cries as well - at least some of the time. And take him out of earshot because otherwise you will worry, worry, worry!

The other thing you could try is only feeding him for five minutes each time. So he gets bored with trying.

thanks for advice. soz had to go and feed last night and fell asleep.

anyway this waiting five mins more each time till you get to 5 am. are they crying till five am or are they waking up later and later?

partner works nights btw, thats why i am in this mess.