Rather 'interested' BIL

[MamacitaGordita]

Hello all- just wanting a bit of advice on my brother in law's, ahem, 'interest' in me bfing!

He is 15, but is a very young and naive 15, and I anticipated a bit of staring etc at me feeding DS, who is now 12 weeks. I kind of thought he would either

1. stare a bit, then get bored/accept the fact I would be bf with my boobs

or

1. be horrifically embarassed, go red, leave the room, etc!

But no, he is just intently stare-ey- always sitting beside me, hanging around, etc!

I don't really know what to do or say, as he would probably be mortified if I was blunt about it, but it is making me feel a bit uncomfortable! I'm not imagining it either as DH has commented on it too! Should I just accept the fact that he is a teenage boy and that's that?!

Forgot to add I am as discreet as I can be, I am not like the auntie on the 'discretion' thread traumatising teens with naked bosoms at dinner table!!

If only bfing was more normal in our society, he probably wouldn't bat an eyelid.

I don't know what I would do in this situation.

Could you ask him if he has any questions?

Could you ask him to fetch you a glass of water or something next time he's there when you are feeding and explain that feeding makes you thirsty and you need lots of water to make the milk - maybe will lead him to ask the questions that he's obviously got brewing about it all?
Would be nice to enlighten him so that he's clued up and supportive when he's a Dad in later years.

say something blunt or not. it is like trying to ignore an elephant in the room otherwise. if he gets embarrassed and runs off, so what. I am sure he'll get over it and it won't scar him for life.

I'd try: what do you think about breastfeeding now that you have seen how it works?

forget what i said.

2.4kids has a better idea

Thanks ladies- I agree I must say something as it's not going away! I agree belgo that if bf was more normalised and breasts less sexualised he prob wouldn't find it so fascinating! Liking the glass of water request... could possibly extend to cream cakes to boost milk production...

Sorry, but I can't help thinking that he's hoping for a glimpse of nipple rather than being interested in breastfeeding per se!!

Yes POTHG... this has ocurred to me also...

Tis awkward.

Say to him "BIL are you interested in BF or just trying to cop an eyeful, cos if it's the former then ask me any questions and if the latter then get a girlfriend!"

LOL

I may resort to that TPL thanks!

you could just say it's distracting to the baby to have other people hovering around. (not sure how old your LO one is, but this is certainly true once they're 4 months or so. I had to tell off a little cousin recently to give us some privacy.)

oh, i see DS is 12 weeks - well your BIL won't know the course of their development. ;)

My DS hangs around watching me feed DS2 but it doesn't bother me in the slightest (he's 11 and knows he was BF himself .. he doesn't ask anything, just watches, then gets bored.
IMO 15 year old is stuck between trying to cop an eyeful AND being interested. This experience may make him a better father one day himself

My first thought was to squirt him in the eye, but I think 2.4kids suggests something more sensible.

Definitely ensure he brings you plenty of tea and biscuits, may as well make himself useful

Thanks everyone for the advice- love the idea of squirting him in the eye... will practice my aim!