Questions about Baby Friendly

[TinkerBellesMumandFiFi2]

I have a basic understanding of Baby Friendly status as I did the Peer course run by the local PCT, but I know I don't properly understand it and others here will know better than me.

Fifi, being breastfed, is a night owl. In hospital she would rarely be in her bed at night because she was feeding. This has led to a couple of things I'm not happy about.

First a nurse asked me if I was giving a dummy, in a more telling than asking way IYSWIM, I answered "no" in just the same tone, she looked shocked and left.

Secondly if we fell asleep they would take her off me and replace her in the cot, which would wake her up and I'd have to get her out for another feed (my mobility is terrible so I had to either use her clothes to lift her high enough to grip her or call the nurse/ MW back). I understand that co-sleeping isn't great in those beds but they made it sound like co-sleeping is bad full-stop. From a personal POV to put her down I would need someone else to do it and then she woke straight away so I would need to be awake through the feed and wouldn't get any rest between feeds. By the end of a week I was having waking dreams from lack of sleep. At one point they tried to take her while she was feeding because I was resting! (I never fully slept in there and obviously not with a baby attached!)

As a second timer with some training and MN I have the confidence to know what's best and to not agree with them. My mum is convinced from what they told her that co-sleeping is bad, I told her that it's perfectly safe if you follow the guidelines but she won't have it that there are guidelines. If that's what they can make a mother of three and CPSW believe, then what about a green first timer?

Can someone who understands Baby Friendly better than me explain it to me? Am I right or am I expecting too much? Should I speak to someone about it all?

Hmm,
well, they have to follow the ten steps to successful breastfeeding, one of which includes not promoting dummies.
Have you had a read of the ten steps? It's on the website.
Read this bit

I remember seeing that on my course, thanks Otherwise they've kept to it, she had a NG fitted straight away as she was too small to go to the ward and there were no beds on Transition, so we were separated for some time. Also she had 24 hours on the Bili-Bed and she wouldn't settle on half an hour every three hours during the night so they gave her a cup feed at one point so she would go longer. There was never a question of a bottle. After Tink was born they were strict with the breastfeeding mums, I once said I wanted to give her a bottle so I could go home and they said no (I'm sure they'd have let me if they thought I was really wanting to give up, but they knew I was just fed up).

I mean I've read the ten points but can't remember them. Reading your link I remember reading that point but I can't remember what the rest was (I've been pregnant and had a baby since!)

I would speak to someone if you have any questions about a hospital complying with its baby-friendly status. It's only going to improve a service. As you suggest the next mum who is less confident and bumps into the dummy promoter may feel obliged to follow her advice and could suffer latching problems or reduce her baby's time at the breast with negative consequences as a result. I know some young babies can manage to bf and use dummies but we know it's a risk.
Hospitals use temporary staff and training is still patchy. We have a baby friendly status hospital near us and unfortunately I often hear pretty dodgy reports. I know new mums don't always have the oomph to write a letter/ email etc but if you do it would be worth it.