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How to stop producing milk?

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kayzr · 12/01/2009 22:37

Despite all my best efforts BF is just not working. DS2 won't even really latch on anymore. I have decided I am going to FF. I'm really sorry but I can't talk about it as it is really getting me down now.

How do I stop producing milk? Will it just stop in a few days?

Also would you complain about a MW who made us give him formula top ups. I feel it is why it hasn't worked out and why his really good latch has just started being really bad.

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SenoraPostrophe · 12/01/2009 22:47

it will just stop, but it will hurt like hell in the meantime.

it's much much better to stop gradually - drop one feed evey few days - can you do that?

btw most babies go through a phase of being very impatient at the breast. it usually coincides with the time when they can get more milk more quickly. it may not be to do with the top-ups, and it may not actually be a "bad latch". personally I wouldn't complain about the mw unless she actually "made" you give top-ups.

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kayzr · 12/01/2009 22:51

She did make us give top ups. She made my DH go to the shop to get formula, she then made the bottle and gave it to DS2. We said "No, we don't want him to have it". She then said she would take him to hospital if we didn't give him them.

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SenoraPostrophe · 12/01/2009 22:54

she did that even though he was feeding perfectly well?

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kayzr · 12/01/2009 22:56

Because he had lost just under a lb of his birthweight.

He was 10lb 5oz and he went down to 9lb 6oz.

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LuckySalem · 12/01/2009 22:59

Kayzr - thats disguisting. I hope you get the help you need. I would have thought you can complain the same way as you get your notes BUT i'm not sure.

I agree that dropping one feed at a time is the best way to go or your boobs will become VERY sore.

StarlightMcKenzie · 12/01/2009 22:59

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kayzr · 12/01/2009 23:00

I rang one the other day, will they help me stop making milk?

I don't want to ring them and be preached at about BF as I can't take it at the minute.

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bubbleymummy · 12/01/2009 23:04

Kayzr - that's awful that you were pressured by your midwife and I feel so bad for you because so seemed so determined to make it work. You're obviously v upset. I would also recommend the cutting down gradually because it will hurt a lot less - there's also still hope there if you want it. It seems such a shame that a HV is taking your decision to bf away from you - I know from your other thread that you've been working so hard at it. Big hugs xo

madmouse · 12/01/2009 23:05

Kayzr here's a big hug to you from a bfeeder who would have lost the plot too if it had happened to me.

No preaching from me, just feeling upset because you are so upset.

That mw does need complaining about.

ellasmum1 · 12/01/2009 23:11

Just want to offer you support and hugs.you sound so sad you poor poor thing, heartbreaking. Take plenty of regular painkillers and wear well fitting bra and just leave boobs alone. Milk will go gradually . first 3/4 days most painful then gets alot better. I stopped all at once and it was bearable with nurofen or paracetamol. ((((((hugs))))))) xxx

bubbleymummy · 12/01/2009 23:16

I really don't want to sound preachy or anything but you don't seem happy with your decision. Does it really have to be all or nothing for you? Can you keep offering him bf alongside the ff and just see where it takes you? Obviously, it is a v hard decision for you to make but if you don't think you're going to be happy with it in the long run then don't make it now...

Notreallycutoutforthis · 12/01/2009 23:18

Can you just express for a while? Keep your options open in case you regret the decision? Expressing will also gradually lower your supply (while reducing the discomfort), so either way it couldn't hurt?

Hoping you get your strength back, whatever you decide

bubbleymummy · 12/01/2009 23:19

Hmmm - hadn't decided whether or not to post that and the computer decided for me - please don't be cross!

tiktok · 12/01/2009 23:35

It's worth people looking at kayzr's previous threads - she had abysmal support and information at the beginning and not just then.

kayzr - no one on the breastfeeding lines will preach. Their job is to ensure you have all the information you want and to listen to you....they may ask you questions to prompt a dialogue and discussion, but your decision, whatever it is, is up to you.

I think your confidence is very low indeed and it's sad because you planned and wanted to bf very much.

yes, indeed, complain

Woollymummy · 12/01/2009 23:39

have u tried only lying down to feed, then you and the baby are both more relaxed. give it a go before you ditch bf. it may work. hope all goes well anyway x

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kayzr · 13/01/2009 07:45

Sorry I went, I fell asleep with the laptop on. DH turned it off when he came in.

Woolly, his latch seems worse when I try to feed him lying down, he seems to shake his head around latch on for about a minute and then comes off again and cries.

I am going to go and see my HV about how I am feeling. I'm crying through most of his feeds and it is starting to upset DS1.

I'm going to express while I stop producing milk and give it to him.

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bubbleymummy · 13/01/2009 08:42

That sounds like a good idea Kayzr. I really hope you get a supportive health visitor to speak to. I would also agree with Tiktok that it's worth trying the bf support lines again. I don't think anyone is going to lecture or preach to you. Take care xo

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