Commiserations please.....

[Wisknit]

This is a bit pathetic of me really.
DS2 is nearly 19 months and has refused to nurse.
I'm 34 weeks and was all geared up to tandem feed. i've put up with 3 months of agony feeding him cos he wanted to and I felt he still needed it and now, 6 weeks from my due date the treacherous little swine darling has decided to stop.
I feel inexplicably bereft. Just needed reassurance as DH thinks I'm being daft.

It's a peculiar mixture of pleasure and pain to watch dcs grow up.

You have my sympathies (for being rejected)and congratulations (for giving your ds2 the chance to make his own decisions in his own time) all at the same time.

bless you, it's your hormones as well! if you hadn't made preparation for tandem feeding, maybe you wouldn't feel so let down? It's like you've done all this work for DS2 and now he doesn't want it - total lack of appreciation for your effort!

Cheer up - it's probably better in the long run.

Wisknit, I am not going to commiserate just yet. There's every chance that your DS2 might start again once the baby arrives.

How would you feel about that? And have you read Adventures in Tandem Nursing?

Mawbroon. I know (and secretly hoping he does) and I have - in fact I mentioned on a tandem nursing thread. It's a brilliant book

Thumbwitch - Yes, part of it is that I went through agonies of dry-feeding for him to stop now.

Gagarin - that second bit is alovely way of looking at it if he doesn't start again. It is and odd mixture isn't it? I don't want him to get any bigger and it doesn't help that DS1 starts preschool on Wednesday . They grow up to quickly.

ds is 2.5 and hasn't fed since before xmas, i'm 35 weeks and was also prepared to tandam, and suffered through months of agony with sore nipples and lack of milk in order to do so.

little git!

hope feeding the new arrival goes well, whether or not ds2 joins in.... at least you know you did the right thing allowing him to continue until he was ready to stop.

You might well find he wants to feed again after the baby is born - my DS1 did for a while and was a similar age to yours. I stopped feeding him when he was around 2.5 ish I think.

well just to make a liar out of me ds decided when i was putting him to bed 'i want mama milk, i'm a baby'

oh bless! I wish my little man would do that.
I am just crossing my fingers re: the whole seeing the baby feed and wanting to too. Hopefully a homebirth should help as he'll see me immediately.

he still might wisknit... like i said, ds has gone since before xmas (22/23rd dec, i'm not sure which) and this is the first time he's wanted to nurse in that time.

i think a large part of the problem is that he's not getting much milk, just drops of colostrum and he's getting bored and frustrated with it.

He will think he has gone to heaven if he has a feed when your milk comes in.

dd stopped when i was about 30 weeks but has now started again (36 weeks tomorrow) having at least 1 feed per day (she's 2,7). I really thought she'd stopped totally but over Christmas she started up again....
I would wait for a few weeks before thinking it's really over.

i know... i'm slightly nervous about his reaction tbh

Last night we had cuddles and tears cos he's teething and not feeling well and guess what?
He asked for milk....
Still bloody agonby though. Any tips on how to make him latch properly again?

lord only knows... ds was never a good latch from day one but has completely lost the ability since i've been preg!

felt awful the night before last.... i was in absolute agony trying to get them into bed and had to refuse him when he asked for mama milk as i simply couldn't deal with the pain of trying to sit down on the bed with him (hips and back fucked, was crawling on the floor at this point in pain)

he hasn't asked since but i don't really want to offer either...