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Infant feeding

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Bit upset that SIL let my DS taste formula

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StefkaSnowAngel · 26/12/2008 21:22

I am posting this here in the hope that someone out there might understand why I feel upset by this.

I had a hellish start to breast feeding, it was very painful for the first three months and I came very close to giving up. I made it through and breast feeding is very important to me.

My SIL mix feeds which is totally her choice, I don't have an issue with it, it is just not for me. We have been staying with them and this morning she told me that my DS had been drinking her DD's formula while I was out of the room.

I feel really upset by this. Logically I know it doesn't matter that much - apparently he threw it away after tasting it anyway. I just don't feel good about it. I didn't want him to have formula ever. It also feels a little disrespectful. I would never let her DD have something that she had never had before without checking it was ok with her mother first.

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hunkermunker · 27/12/2008 21:52

Would be tempted to say "Oh, that's a coincidence, how funny - your DD latched onto me the other day and had some of my milk".

But I probably wouldn't. I would've been livid though, had that happened to either of the boys.

Grendle · 27/12/2008 22:03

Yeah... or just leave a bottle of EBM lying around next time they're over and see what happens...

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StefkaSnowAngel · 27/12/2008 22:59

I am glad I am not the only one that would have been pissed off by this. My only comfort is that he clearly hated the stuff!

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carrotsandpeasifyouplease · 27/12/2008 23:13

Oh thank god for that!

Leo9 · 27/12/2008 23:26

I think you're both investing a helluva lot into this issue. 14 month old picks up a cup and has a sip of milk. It doesn't taste as good as mother makes. Puts down. Toddles off to next thing.

Clearly she thinks this is some sort of issue, and your (understandable) committment to and investment in breastfeeding, makes this something much bigger than it is.

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StefkaSnowAngel · 27/12/2008 23:30

He was in his high chair actually. You are right though - I found the first few months of breast feeding a bit traumatic. In fact the first few months of being a mum in general was all a bit of a shock so I have become a bit over sensitive and emotional about the breast feeding issue!

As for the SIL, I don't think she thinks much of the way I parent but I need to learn to ignore her and not let her get to me so much. I am far too sensitive for my own good.

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Leo9 · 27/12/2008 23:36

well reading back, I don't think you want to care too much what someone thinks, who is recommending you slap a 14 month old!! I do sympathise as I know it's hard NOT to let people like this get to you when they're so free with their opinions and so willing to give (bad) advice.

She sounds 'challenging' company! hope you don't have to see her too often.....

FLORIAinexcelsisdeo · 28/12/2008 00:04

I totally understand your feelings but would only repeat what CrotchetDiva has said,word for word....that and avoid the sad jealous sil like the plague.

michaelbooblie · 28/12/2008 00:18

Not very nice of her, but could have been worse (juice,chocolate,sweets). On the scale of things not that big a deal!.

shubiedoo · 28/12/2008 00:49

Would you have felt this way if the cup had had regular milk in it? At this age there's not much difference, if anything the formula would have a few more nutrients. Does your son drink milk as well as breastfeed?
But it sounds like there are other issues with your SIL, we don't know the full story...

shubiedoo · 28/12/2008 00:49

shubiedoo · 28/12/2008 00:50

Sorry, didn't mean to post so many times!

franch · 28/12/2008 08:03

I like hunker's suggestion best

star6 · 28/12/2008 08:11

haven't read the entire thread here, but I'd be really upset as well. More just about SIL allowing it to happen. I know people in my life like this... they think trying to exclusively bf is ridiculous and would jump at the opportunity even to tell me that something like this happened, just to see my reaction or just to have the satisfaction of knowing that I could no longer say he's never had it or that he had reached for it himself...etc. It's just jealousy, really - she's jealous of the fact that you are exclusively bf. Maybe I'm wrong.

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