bf - have i done my last feed?

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my dd is 17 months and normaly feeds twice a day, 6am and 8pm. lately, once or twice a week in the morning after i changed her nappy she has run to the stairgate and said down, cereal, so i have taken her down for breakfast and she has missed the feed and just had the nightime feed.
last night me and dp went out and left dd with her gps for the 2nd time ever, gps put her to bed after a beaker of milk and she slept through. (1st night ever without bf). this morning she ran to go down and asked for cereal so she missed another feed.
it's now 9pm, dp has bathed her and taken her downstairs for milk from a beaker and i am hiding on the computer hoping he can get her to bed.
i think if she sees me she may want milk.
part of me wants to go and offer a feed just for the closeness but part of me wants to take this opportunity to call it a day.
17 months is more than i ever intended to do, i find it quite draining, dd stands on me and swings her legs about while feeding and is never still and is teething with her molars so been gnawing a bit too.
don't know whether to hide or go down, be or

I cant exactly remember but it was only days before they stopped asking. I remember my sister offering her dd a feed after 2 weeks and DD didn't know what to do.she was 13 months. You have done ever so well feeding that long and she sounds ready. (we have to refuse lots of things we could give them every time they ask - mine ask for chocolate hourly )

i don't mind refusing chocolate, everyday dd has her advent, a milkyvar kid one, eats it and asks for me and everyday we have to tell her it's one a day, she might learn by xmas day, 2012 that is.
i hope she doesn't ask again as it really broke my heart last night!

I did the never offer never refuse and DS gradually tailed-off with the feeding, he stopped any night feeds at all when he was a few months past three. He didn't feed every night, towards the end, probably one in three nights he would remember, but often would just fall asleep.
There are still a lot of health benefits for both of you if you continue even one feed. Your risk of breast and ovarian cancer continues to reduce as you feed and your daughter will continue to benefit from the support you give her immune system.
I noticed that my ds became a lot more prone to infection when he stopped bfing. He always has some kind of minor ailment now, poor old boy.

she went to bed after 3 beakers of milk with no fuss at all and didn't ask for bf so i'm 100 times happier

I'm so glad for you!