Night feeding wake for a 10.30/11pm feed or let him sleep on??

[Bakester]

DS is 9 weeks and I have been waking him each night around 11pm for an expressed bottle which I express around 10pm ( so my husband can feed him). I did the same with DD who is now nearly 2. He then usually wakes between 2-3am for another feed and then sleeps til around 6. DD began dropping the 2/3am feed around this time but DS is always v. hungry at this time and shows no sign of giving it up yet. Is it too early for me to even be expecting him to drop that feed? Should I drop the 11pm feed and just wait til he wakes later and maybe just feed him once?? Or should I continue to do 11pm in the hope that he will eventually drop the middle of the night in his own time and then we can all sleep and then drop the 11pm when he starts weaning as I did with DD. Am I being impatient!!

can't help you much bakester, but i'm interested in this too. my nine week old goes to bed at about 8.30pm/9pm, wakes for a feed at about 2.30am, then last until about 6.30am. i have been wondering whether i should try to stay up until about 11pm and then wake him for a feed then to try to drop the 2.30am feed. hmm, who knows?
wld love to hear from others about what their lo's did at 9/10 weeks.

Blimey, if my 9 week old were doing this, I'd leave well alone! 2 hrly waking here. Did a dream feed with DD but she was much older than 9 weeks when we did and I'm never sure if it made any difference to be honest. There is a theory that they do one long stretch a night and once you break that, the stretches get shorter & shorter so best to leave them when they're in that first, usually longest stretch.

Jane 7 we are in similar situations. I asked another friend this pm she suggested to keep on with the 11pm and that he would drop the 2ish feed when he is ready. I am going to be patient!!

You could just see what happens if you don't do the feed. I stopped the 10.30 feed with both mine at about 5 weeks as I found it really hard to do, they wouldn't feed properly if still half asleep (i.e. dream feed - they would do it with a bottle but i was a bit lazy about expressing so would generally just bf), but if I woke them properly then they would take ages to settle again and be all shouty and obviously upset about being disturbed.

I found that dropping it made little difference. Both girls followed a v similar pattern. At that stage, when I did the 10.30 feed they would wake around 3.30am for a feed, then go through to 6.30 ish in the morning. When I dropped the 10.30pm feed I found they would wake around 2am for the next feed, but still go through to 6.30ish in the morning so I only had to do one feed in the 12 hour 'night' period rather than 2 and could go to bed earlier. I then found the 2.30am feed soon became later and later and both girls slept through the night by the time they were 9 / 10 weeks - i.e. about 5 weeks after I'd dropped the 10.30 feed.

Why don't you try it without the feed one night and see what happens. If it's a disaster you can put it in again the next night.

Thanks Nelly. I did try it last night and I had to wake him at 7 to feed him before getting DD up! He slept right through the night from 7pm (surely that wont last). Mind you he had his 1st injections yesterday so i wonder if they zonked him out. Will try again tonight and see what happens. In fact the only reason I woke at 2am was due to merry husband returning from Christmas party !!!!

I didn't really do the whole dream feed thing (mostly because I was so exhausted I was in bed at 8pm every night!) but left ds to wake me when he needed feeding. It was normally 2-3 times a night. 9weeks is very early to actively cut a feed IMHO, I waited until ds was at the end of 4 months before I did anything to cut out any feeds, but I was ff so prob a bit different.