Old wives tales and MIL myths

[kayzisexpecting]

I thought I would start a thread where people can add old wives tales and myths they have heard or been told about BF or FF.

I have loads all from my MIL. I didn't manage to bf DS but really want to bf this one and this is what she said.

1.DS will hate me and will probably end up in care(her's) by the age of 5(he is 20 months) because he will know he wasn't BF and that the new baby is BF. This will make him think we hate him.

1. I won't produce milk because I had a baby I didn't BF and therefore my body thinks I won't BF this one and won't produce milk.

1. I hate milk and therefore won't produce milk because I don't drink milk.

1. The new baby knows I didn't BF DS so won't latch on.

I have been told all of this is not true but I really does amuse me.

Anyone else have any funny tales to share?

This woman is poisonous and hurtful. Good for you for laughing at it, but she needs to shut up! Has she any other DILs or daughters to mess up? Time for your dh to call 'time' on her rudeness, I would say

No other DIL's but 2 daughthers. My SIL(her eldest daughter) is expecting and it is like the second coming of Jesus. SIL can do no wrong.

DH did have a long talk with her about it but she denied everything. So we now tend to ignore her and laugh at all the stuff she comes out with.

She does sound like a mega bitch! I was told by my auntie that my milk wouldn't let down in the morning until I'd had a big bowl of weetabix Funny that I can feed DD loads in the morning before we even get up!

Dear God...what dangerous rubbish...methinks she doesn't want you breastfeeding then....

Mine told me when I went back to work when DD was 8 months that I would have to express when I got home before I fed DD as the 'old' milk that had been sitting in my breasts all day at work would have 'gone off' and would poison DD...

What are daughthers????

My spelling has gone to pot recently.

at your mil.

Exercising, getting angry/excited will curdle your milk.

Bf'ing your baby to sleep is cheating.

Guitar, She has said that if I can manage it I have to BF, despite thinking I won't be able to. She called me lazy for not bf DS despite trying my hardest.

Nothing as extraordinary as some of these - I'm very lucky that both MIL and most of my family BF, so lots of support though my grandmother does keep telling me that she had to stop feeding my dad because her milk was too rich for him (as she was told at the time). The only myths I've been told, in fact, was by my MW, who reacted with horror when I asked if I could drink and bf and told me that I could occasionally have half a glass of wine (but implied I'd be dicing with death if I did) and that I should pump and dump if I did ever have a night out. Thank you MN for putting me right (hic!)

I love the 'drink milk , make milk one' even midwives have said that 'recently' to my knowledge.

Apparently due to my advancing age (nearly 37) my milk will be of poorer quality as it too is old. Also, I do not have enough milk to feed DS (8 months) because you are only meant to BF (if you absolutely have to anyway) til 6 months. I love my MIL. Can you tell? Meant to be seeing them today and am already priming myself for the "oh nooooo...you're not STILL BF that poor child?"

My gran in law lent me her Truby King "motherhood" book that she bought in 1949 so i could read up on what 2 expect! what a giggle! some gems!!
-put your baby out in the sun all day, its good for them to get a healthy tan
-leave the window wide open all night so they get fresh air
-don't alow the baby 2 sleep in your room as they breath in air aready used by you therefore poisoned
-babies don't need feeding at night

This one did pleasently surprise me tho,
-if u r breast feeding avoid alcohol as it gets in2 your blood & will poison the baby!

Im currently staying with inlawsin morocco where they have very definite ideas about how to raise babies! I have beentold, and this isntonly by family btw, but any old woman who happens to bepassing -
you have to hold the nipple out oftheway of his nose. in fact the woman obligingly moved it out the way for me.
the hold where you support his head with the opposite arm to boob is cruel because he cant sleep that way. hes underweight - i want him to feed, not sleep.
babies should sleep on a pillow. hes 9 weeks old.
its cruel to pat his back when winding him.
babies should never go outside without a fleece blanket covering every inch of them. even when itsreally sunny.
Im trying hard not to snap....last night i came home to findmy lovely SIL givinghim verveine tea, no probs, but with sugar in it. given that they dont brush baby teeth butlet them rot out of the poor kids heads im not thrilled.....

Words fail me... what a load of tripe!

My Spanish teacher told me to drink beer to make my milk rich - of course, I followed her advice to the letter

...your milk turn sour and you have to bottle feed after 4 months....!
How HAS the human race survived until the advent of plastic bottles and formula milk? I just don't know!

BF babies don't grow after 4 months unless you...see above etc etc

I think the formula milk marketing people in the 50's were just amazingly thorough and got their message across...did they get tips from Stalin??????

I am liking the chocolate one. I could do that quite happily.

I was told by an old lady in the shop yesterday to get the baby to sleep through I should have a hot chocolate while giving him his last feed before bed.

My midwife told me to drink Guinness while bf. Can't remember why.....perhaps it affects your memory.......

God Kayz I had no idea your MiL was such a witch .....and so full of complete codswallop. LOTS of people successfully BF subsequent children even if they haven't BF the first. Keep away from her as much as you can - esp in those first couple of weeks when you are feeling hormonal and likely to deck her (well I would).

My MiL was very ignorant about BFing but very supportive. She always kept asking me - "how much did she take"? She could never understand that I couldn't tell her in exact fluid ounces. Her own daughter is currently exc. BFing her little girl (who was 8 weeks premature - great acheivement) and MiL is very proud - but does keep saying to me "you know, she is feeding ALL the time". Hmmm - well she will do won't she - what with being a baby and all with a small tummy....

My friends HV kept asking her how many ounces her DD was having at each feed. My friend was trying to work out how she would measure it.

Turnip I do try to keep away as much as possible. She does tend to drive me nuts.

Oh, my mom used to measure how much my sister had, when she was breastfed - she'd just weigh her before and after the feed. Whatever the difference was, that's what she'd had.

Can you imagine bothering, though?

Ex-MIL - "Eeeeh you'll never be able to fil that hungry baby up, you're not big enough up top"

Once I'd scraped my jaw off the floor at hearing my MIL commenting on my boob size, I did ponder on why she herself had not managed to BF her children despite having norks to her knees an ample bosom (not aloud though, I just looked )

kayz OMG what a load of sh*te!!!!!!!

Not got a MIL like that but a 'friend' who is always saying to me that if I expect the baby to sleep through it needs to be on formula. She actually convinced another friend of this a few months back. Needless to say friends baby went on to FF and still woke half the night, so she weaned her at 16 wks! I think she does it to make herself feel better that she never tried to BF herself.

Some people are frightening they should shut up and keep their opinions to themselves as they clearly no nothing.

sorry that would be 'know' nothing

Turtle- do we share a MIL?
I've had:
Breastfeeding must stop at exactly 6mths or the milk goes bad.
Colostrum gives babies jaundice
White wine makes more milk (and should be added to the ff bottle that you must give at least once a day- see point below)
As I was 38 when dd was born, my milk couldn't possibly be satisfactory so was ordered to give ff as well at least once a day.
And it must only be given in A Fordesque kind of way- never on demand- that spoils them. (likewise you should never pick up a crying baby)

Not bf related but having a shower when pg causes m/c too. Apparently.
Also, babies sleep better if you crush poppy seeds into their bottles.....

I haven't seen my MIL for 5 yrs.......nuff said.