DD2 is coming up to 12m and I want to keep BFing

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But I want to cut out night feeds, plus DH isn't very supportive (he thinks its a bit weird now DD2 is older..)

Would love some advice on how many feeds to offer / how to handle DH / how to cut out night feeds - anything really!

TIA..

My dh really couldn't see why I wanted to continue past 12 months either. He saw it as the reason our dss didn't sleep well, and therefore thought that it was the cause I was so tired.

However, it did help to point out that our dss were able to snack healthily by bfing and that they weren't therefore getting used to having unhealthy foods. He's very keen on healthy eating.

Ultimately, I had to use my dh to help with changing our feeding patterns, and send him in at nightime. When our dss saw me, I felt that they just saw "milk" and I really couldn't distract them. Dh used to quietly say that "It's nightime, sleeptime, now. Mummy's asleep" and do all the patting, pick up, put down stuff. It only took three nights, and we were able to keep on with daytime feeds.

It was incredibly hard work for him though with my two milk monsters - we waited until they were older and could understand what he was saying, but they really really tested his resolve, and complained a lot during those 3 nights - particularly the first one.

Should have said that we did try cutting out the first feed at night, which was usually about 2am, and then letting me go in for the next one, but that seemed confusing, and ds2 particularly started waking a lot. So we went to a simple 'no feeds at night' rule and worked from there.

Thanks NQGU...

my dd is 16 months and still bf, she just feeds 1st thing in the morning and bedtime. i did never offer never refuse and she just cut most of the daytime ones gradually. when she turned 1 i started to offer cows milk in a beaker during the day aswell as water. in the night dp went in and settled her back or if i went in and she asked for milk i just said all gone and at that age she understood as thats what we say when dinner is over.

We did something similar to NQGU with the night wakings, as DS was still feeding several times a night at 12 months and I was knackered.

DH would go in for the first waking of the night and/or any wakings up until midnight. I would then feed at any subsequent wakings. He would cuddle, sit with DS etc for however long it took for him to go back to sleep. Fairly quickly DS began to sleep for longer periods - although he didn't reliably sleep all the way through until 2 yrs. Think we tried this at 12 months and it didn't work, but at 15 months it did.

Also, when DS was younger, DH used to make noises about it not being 'necessary' to feed for longer - but I just kept going and he soon saw the benefits. DS finally weaned at just before his 2nd birthday when I was 4 months pg.