Could I get someone to come round to my house to help me with bf, TODAY ? What is best number to ring ?

[Oblomov]

Emcs Cs 10 days ago. Severley tongue tied baby.
Went to bf clinic at local hospital yesterday. She made me feel great.
But I am struggling to remmeber what she said. And have only had 2 decent latches since yeasterday pm.
I feel so stupid. Becasue this is is ds2. I should know better.

each mother and baby set is different. the fact that this is your second baby makes no difference, except that you now tht you can do it.
i have no experience of tonguetie. but the fact that you have had two proper latchons is encouraging. also, no idea who to suggest you call. but lots of postivie vibes for you.

0845 120 2918 is the la letch league.

I will also look up the NCT number. I hope you get some help, DS1 was tongue tied and I resorted to FF in the end.

You shouldnt know better as Stitch said, each time is new and a new set of challenges.

Which group is best does tend to be a regional thing Ob, eg I know the ABM is particulalrly strong in Somerset. Best bet would be to call round; and the easiest way to get a number is to look at a post by victoriansqualor, her profile has them all listed in (try April 08 postnatal)

HTH

www.breastfeeding.nhs.uk/en/fe/page.asp?n1=4

I had massive help from local NCT (national childbirth trust) breastfeeding co-ordinator.

NCT Breastfeeding Line - 0300 330 0771
8am?10pm, seven days a week

local area pages

Good luck Oblomov. xx

ABM: 08444 122 949

VS's profile is down, I have told her though

Oh and have a look at the kellymom site, thats pretty good

Actually found all this

Association of Breastfeeding Mothers

www.abm.me.uk
Helpline: 08444 122 949
Offers voluntary mother-to-mother support, counselling and information for breastfeeding women. Helpline open from 9.30am to 10.30pm.

National Breastfeeding Helpline

Helpline: 0844 20 909 20
Funded by the Department of Health and staffed by trained volunteer mothers from the Breastfeeding Network and the Association of Breastfeeding Mothers. Lines are open 9.30am-9.30pm every day of the year.

NCT Breastfeeding helpline

Breastfeeding Line: 0870 444 8708
The National Childbirth Trust has trained breastfeeding counsellors who can offer individual advice and support.

La Leche League

www.laleche.org.uk
24hr Helpline: 0845 120 2918
Helpline offering advice and information on breastfeeding, plus local group meetings.

Breastfeeding Network

www.breastfeedingnetwork.org.uk
Helpline: 0844 412 4664
Offers free, confidential telephone information on breastfeeding and one-to-one local support

Which number is best depends on where you are - can you give us an idea? Different areas have different cover - where I am, only the Breastfeeding Network is any good, for example ...

kellymom on tongue tie

Keep going, you're doing fabulously

My ds had tongue tie and though he fed ok I did get sore and I think he used to get very tired so fed more frequently. In hindsight I would have had it snipped but the specialist in Southampton was so busy and said that if ds was feeding fine then to leave it. I don't think this was the best decision.

And don't feel stupid. I am a maternity nurse and have looked after lots of babies, totally different when its your own. I was a bit of a mess if I'm honest.

Hope you get some help soon.

cheers guys.

i am in a bit of a state. see my other threads.

I am Chertsey, SURREY, junction 11 of M25
any suggestions which one to try first ?

i am going to go to bf clinic again tomorrow - at st peters hospital in chertsey - they have them on mon and wed.

I agree with poshtottie - my DD2 had a tongue tie and the consultant said he could snip it but probably no need to really. In hindsight I definitely should have, as we had awful feeding probs and now at age 2 I'm thinking of having it done as she has developed a lisp. I didn't do it at the time when she was tiny as the consultant was ambivalent about it and the thought of the procedure upset me. Really wish I'd just done it tho.
Keep perservering with the feeding - have you spoken to your health visitor regarding an urgent consultant referral to discuss the tongue tie - they can snip it in a couple of minutes with no need for an anasthetic and it can help resolve the feeding issues (I believe pretty much instantly).
Good luck, and congrats on your new little one! NCT b/f counsellor came out the same day to see me with DD1 and was fab. Hope you get someone to help you today. x

Try NCT first - they might be able to send someone out. Good luck

ds2 has had his tongue snipped it was done on friday. but it is still very tight. but his bf has not improved. I talked about all of this with the bf counsellor yesterday. she said she could see his tongue, but if I got my latch positioning right, he should still be o.k.

My dh is ignoring me. He works his socks off, looking after ds1, cooking etc, yet i told him he wa jealous and unsupportive. So I now don't have the most important thing I need, a good relationship with my lovely lovely dh.

My diabeteis is all over the place.

I am pumping. and feeding and up all night, not getting latch right.

infected cs scar. trying to do too much.

ds2 just started school who asks why I don't love him anymore.

I am up against it.

I would also agree on the tongue tie. If I had been aware of MN I would have tried much harder with the BF and also had the tongue tie looked snipped. It happened itself after he had Craniel Oesteopathy(sp) for colic, but I am sure it was all linked and that he had the colic from me resulting to FF with the tongue-tie

Ob - I am so sorry that you are feeling like this. I found it much harder as far as DH was concerned when DS2 came along. He was stretched and I felt as though he wasnt giving me the attnetion he did first time round, truth was he was busy working and looking after DS1.

Tell him how you feel. I write a lot of it down TBH and looking back at it now can see the rants of a mad woman, who was shattered and in need to rest and help.

Ring your surgury re the diabetease and ask for a diabetic nurse to come out and help. Often some support is what is needed.

Ring the NCT regarding the breat feeding 0300 330 0771.

Put together a special bag of toys for DS1 and give them to him whilst you are feeding DS2. Keep telling him how proud you are off him and lots of cuddles andrest.

You are doing great

Oblomov

Your dh needs to realise this is probably one f the most challenging few weeks of your life, ignoring people is for 5 year old girls anway not grown adults!

You really are uop against it aren't you? ds3 started ft school 8 hours after ds4 was born so have an inkling- I really felt awful I couldn't take him, but 'fortunately' ds3 is asd and didnt really notice anything much!

Call around until you get one that you feel binded with; I had a hard time bf ds4 (and me a trained unicef bod- so really you can't blame yourself!) and didn't find the particular NCT lady I got very useful with ds4's problems (allergies to substances in my milk) but when I used ABM before they were great; but then have heard fab stuff about La Leche and TikTok is NCT and sorted ds4 out for me on here eventually.

It's the person you get, not their group iyswim?

Oblomov it sounds awful my darling.

You've got so much on your plate. I hope your dh can put his upset aside and help you out here even if it is getting to him too. It's much worse for you.

Say sorry to your dh and tell him how much you need him at the moment. You needn't have this extra worry.

I have no experience of tongue tie but a bit with diabetes. Are you running high? Are you on the basal bolus system?

i have faxed my blood sugars to helen, the pump nurse at kings, this mornimg.
i hd a hypo sat night and dropped the baby dh cried.
i have just rung him, wailing down the phonne, sobbing. he says he loves me and we will get through this.

have left my details with nct. i will see if anyone gets back to me.
shall i ring another one ? just incase ? which one is the second choice ?

Hi, I goggled your local NCT branch & got your local BFC number, she may be more local to come out to you or you pop over.

The branch breastfeeding counsellor is Maura Clark and you can contact her on 01276 461287. Please use this number only for breastfeeding calls.

Otherwise try any of the hlepline number other have given- sometimes it may tke a while to get through as these women are volunteers & also looking after their own families so it wont harm to try them all & see who you get through to.

You're doing a great job in the face of difficulty & I am sure with a bit of support & confidence things will improve.

oh poor you - didn't realise you'd already had the tongue tie snipped. Fingers crossed you get a good BF person out to see you today - I'd phone a selection of them and see which can come first! And if the first one doesn't help you then you've got a back up in place.
Don't know anything about diabetes - sorry
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Do you have any family close by who can come and help and maybe take DS1 for a treat/cinema/out for tea/ sleepover or something to make him feel special?
Explain to your DH that for the next few wks you really need his help and support as you are struggling.
Try to rest as much as you can - you need to recover your strength. I always forget to eat when I'm immediately postnatal and exhausted and end up feeling awful, tearful, tired and having no milk - so my advice is stick a baking potato in the oven when you have a minute, grate some cheese or heat up some baked beans or something else you fancy then an hour later you can at least have a nice hot lunch to give you some energy. Or get someone to make you a big pot of veg soup (or something similar) that you can heat up when you have a minute.
Do you have any close friends who can come and help out if DH is busy?
Wish I lived near you - I'd come and help! I know how hard it is (I struggle with BF etc too - and I've never even had a C/S to cope with at the same time) - but it will get better soon. The first couple of wks pass soon enough and you'll be back on your feet soon.
Take care x x x

As a next try I would sugest abm- just because I know who they use for advice if needed (assuming its still the same) and she's one of the top BF guru's, and a healthcare professional so will know about the diabetes as well

Oh Oblomov you're having a really bad time. I really feel for you. Am trying to send you some good vibes through the computer.

xx

Just read your thread as my dd has tongue tie, too.

Poor Oblomov, I'm so sorry to read about your difficulties. You really ARE up against it. Can anyone + your Dh help you out so you can rest a bit?

Power hug