Chequers, are you brave enough to try them with the truth?
"You know, I'd really appreciate it if you all tried to see my feeding dd as something utterly normal, no big deal, and as unspectacular as if she was bottle fed. You don't have to watch, although I don't care if you do. It's pretty miserable being asked to go and hide somewhere as if this is an embarrassing or shameful act. It's not any more embarrassing than having a cup of tea. I don't want to be treated any differently from anyone else. It makes me extremely uncomfortable and rather upset to have the suggestion put to me that I'm not welcome to feed the baby here. I enjoy the company of others and it's miserable to have to sit in a room on my own. Nobody else here would like to be asked to leave the room, so I do wish you'd treat me the way you'd like to be treated yourselves.
I will never, never feed my baby in a toilet. What a disgraceful and disgusting idea that would be.
I think it's awful and sad that some of you were treated this way when you were breastfeeding, so I hope you can see that making less of a big song and dance about this is a change for the better.
My dd is going to need feeding regularly, day in day out, wherever I am. I hope you can all do the adult thing and get used to the idea and be supportive of me, since I know you love me, and her.
If not, I have no idea how we can possibly manage to spend time in each other's company until she weans."
When my dd was tiny, an uncle of mine descibed me as rude because I fed her at the dinner table. He expected me to make myself scarce as we were all sitting down to eat. The only reason I didn't challenge him were because of the exceptional circumstances, bereavement in the family, and we were in his house. I didn't move though. I love him dearly, and we get on well, but I won't return to visit until dd is weaned. Either accept us or miss us! Could be a year or two...