Hi, Jo. Your story sounds really similar to mine, I couldn't b/feed my dd1 due to birth and post natal comps too, and I was gutted about it. With dd2 I was soooooooooo determined to do it, and she's now 11 mo and we're still b/feeding like mad! I had a planned c-section with dd2 and requested skin-to-skin contact after the birth, and I have a photo of her covered in vernix scoffing away!
Before birth, I bought Clare Byam Cook's breastfeeding video, which you can get from Amazon. The best bit of the vid is her advice on postitioning, and she has three case studies at the end so you can see what she is on about. I actually used on of dd1's dolls to practise before I went into hospital! I also had a couple of b/feeding books, one was CBC's and the other was Breastfeeding Naturally, which I took into hospital with me. I bought some Lansinoh ointment and used it in the weeks prior to the birth as I have really sensitive skin, just to make sure my nipples weren't sore, and I took a tube to hospital with me. This was vital, as dd2 was really hungry and wasn't satisfied with colostrom, so until my milk came in she was chomping away on nothing which made me quite sore. I actually got as far as telling the m/wife I wanted to give up, but I remembered how sad I was about dd1 and tried again. The Lansinoh worked a treat, and that night my milk came in, and dd2 hasn't stopped scoffing since!
Now I still feel sad about not b/feeding dd1 but I now realise that the situation with her was impossible and that I was lucky that I had formula to fall back on. But this past year and my experience with bfeeding dd2 has been really healing, and when I look at her I feel such a sense of acheivement. And, dd1 isn't at all fazed by it, I wasn't sure how she'd react but she has taken it in her stride, in fact she pretends to bfeed her Tiny Tears with he belly button (bless!)
Congratualtions on your pregnancy and loads of luck.