HELP!!! j is refusing to feed from me this morning.its upsetting me.why would he do that

[CvQ]

anyone?

give him lots of fluids in his food

and don't worry too you will keep producing milk for a few days...

have you been expressing?

ive expressed today.i actually gave him some earlier and he took that
your not his union rep are you??

still nothing

aargh poor you, how did you get on at bedtime? how is he reacting when you try to feed?

hes only just settled.when i put him to the breast he is pulling away and fussing and just getting generally upset.ive had to give him a bottle again and what ive done is express again and if he wont feed later he can have my bm at least.

My ds did this, feeding fine and then one morning absolutely refused the breast and screamed if I put him anywhere near. It turned out he had hand, foot and mouth and his mouth must have been too sore with blisters. He would sip from a cup though (he was about 10 months at the time)

were you not trying to stop bf and switch him to ff?

yes i was your right.i was having alot of issues with bf at the time which ive now resolved.its something which i am finally enjoying and want to stick with it for as long as i can.

he could be a bit confused. you do seem to have swapped back and to quite a lot looking back thru your threads

probably.i seem to mess everything up

no thats not what i said.

If he is happier taking your milk thru a bottle then surely thats the best thing to do? taking the middle ground rather than either ff or bf?

sorry for being sensitive.i just dont want to give up bf when ive worked so hard to get where i am now with it but i do understand what you mean.im going to try and dreamfeed him later.im missing the closeness.

awww CvQ
I know it's hard not to give a bottle, when you ahve it all there.
but remember, that there are a lot of babies that go on nursing strikes, and who also refuse bottles.

so don't feel bad about holding out for him to take the breast.

maybe i should wait for him to wake in the night rather than dreamfeed him?i didnt expect this to go on all day.its thrown me slightly.

CvQ, I'm honestly not having a go...but could it be the wine from the other night? I think it takes a day or so to work through your system?

Hope it is as innocent as that and that your little man is back on the boob tomorrow. xx

ohim ashamed to say i did have a lot to drink and didnt stop until early hours of sunday morning
but i expressed earlier and he took that in a bottle.i dont understand this bf stuff

Darling don't worry about it. If it is that then you'll be fine tomorrow and all will be well again. Don't feel ashamed. I'm sure you're not the first mum to do this!

I haven't got a child, so I'm certainly not going to lecture you.

Of course, it could be nothing to do with that and he's just decided to be awkward today!

I think you're astonishing. Always impressed by your resilience in bouncing back from utter crap that you have to deal with.

Take care. xx

your very kind.thankyou!

No problem.

Hope you manage to catch some peaceful sleep tonight.

hes on

Yay! That's brilliant news.

CvQ, i mean this with no malice but i think that now that you have decided to carry on breastfeeding that you need to stop drinking. The 2 just cannot go together.

i know.sorry

the odd one here or there doesn't hurt

but if you're finding you can't stop at one or two then best to cut out altogether.

just wanted to say CVQ, that although I haven't posted on any of your other threads I have read some and I think you're one of the most inspiring people I have come across online, and you are a wonderful mum. you need to give yourself a break sometimes

specifically with the breastfeeding though, it IS hard. they DO change the rules all the time (the babies that is) and it can be scary too, not knowing what they're taking, worrying they aren't feeding enough, being told shit from health visitors.
but you're in the right place. you'll always get good advice on here. x

thankyou