i mean lazy feeder, ffs. a midwife told me that about dd and i was so hurt. my beautiful child, only days old... already lazy.
anyway, dn is three weeks old, dsis has been topping-up although not a lot apparently.
the baby is bright, alert, lovely (according to her devoted grandma) and my dsis says that if it weren't for the scales she'd swear the baby was fine.
i'm trying to think of what dsis was saying today... apparently the baby did lose weight after a gain (although pee and poo situ fine) and that's what prompted the advice to top up. three different sets of scales have been used.
dsis (i think) is expressing milk if she's going out, and taking formula also, so feeding dn first, then giving bottle of expressed, then formula. she is tbh a bit bummed by the idea of staying in the house all the time, so just wants to be out.
this lazy thing stems from the fact that dn doesn't shout for milk, is generally bonny and blithe and only feeds for 15 mins before falling asleep. i had proposed today that she might be an efficient feeder, is that right? plus i sent her a link to kellymom where it explained the tap/foremilk/hindmilk thing and proposed that maybe more regular 15 min feeds might keep that higer fat content milk coming and help her with ditching the formula (automatic caveat: If That's What She Wants To Do).
apart from that i mostly ranted about the fact that fookin' formula is now EIGHT QUID a box and whinged about how shit my support was when i was going through it. therapeutic for me, at least...
anyway, what else can i do, what should i have said, how can i best support her (we don't live in the same towns) without doing her wee napper in?