Me and my partner live separately, we have a nearly 20 month old toddler who’s still breastfeeding obsessed, it’s her only form of comfort and her biggest sleep association, we’ve co-slept since day one and she’s always fed to sleep, and still wakes frequently through the night to feed, obviously more for comfort than nutrition.
As we’re approaching her 2nd birthday me and my partner are trying to navigate how and when she will start having overnight stays with him, I’m very unsure how this will work as she’s never taken a pacifier, had a comfort blanket ect and the only other way she sleeps for a nap in the day is to take her for a walk in the pushchair which obviously isn’t practical for night time as she can’t sleep in a pushchair twice a week.
shes definitely not ready to be weaned from breastfeeding and as I am a solo parent (dad only visits once a week for a few hours due to his own commitments) I am not willing to put myself and my daughter through the strain of trying to wean while I have nobody else to support her getting to sleep, I think it would take a massive tole on my mental health to have to force-ably put my daughter through that and deny her her only source of comfort.
dads Adamant he will be able to settle her, so I’m kinda just in the mind frame of just letting him try and if he’s successful then great, and if he isn’t then, I told you so? Those situation and just continuing to breastfeed while she’s with me until she’s ready to wean on her own. I say “i told you so” as she’s always shared a bed with me and fed throughout the night and this was never an issue with him until recently, seems to all of a sudden have a chip on his shoulder about it even though he used to praise me for it, but anyway. so her going there and having not only her “Milkies” taken away, but also having to sleep alone is going to stress the poor girl out beyond belief and I think once dad realizes this he’s going to realize it’s too soon for her and hopefully come to his senses but it’s causing a lot of tension in the relationship so I’d rather he just realize this for himself than him keep labelling me the bad guy.
the question is, would I need to pump during the nights she isn’t here since she would normally breastfeed so frequently through the night? I wouldn’t want my milk to dry up for when she is here? or would my body still sustain my supply now due to how far along we are?