Will my breastfed 2 year old wean himself or do I need to persist?

[Bloodorangekangaroo]

tried every milk I can find and he hates them and stuck with them all for nearly a month. Will only drink water or breast milk from myself. He is a really good eater though. Eats a good portion and will eat anything you put in front of him. I’m still breast feeding him to sleep and up to 4 times a day. Refusing to feed him and distracting him leaving him hysterical. Will he wean himself off or do I need to be tougher? When he’s with dad he’s fine until I return and he wants me to feed him straight away. Any advice would be appreciated.

If he is eating well there is no need for milk. Mine hasn't drank milk since I stopped bf....4 years ago!
I actually found that at this age they become more needy and after dialing right down it ramped up again. It was then I decided I need to get tough as I couldn't ever see him stopping! I slowly wound down do just at bedtime and then DH took over. One day it just felt weird (in a random sexual way it never had before) that was the last feed! I was done 🙈 I told DH he was on bedtime and night duty and went for a walk each bedtime. If I wasn't there he wasn't fussed.

He will wean at some point. I'll be honest and say I breastfed both my children for a long time. DD was almost 3 and stopped when my milk dried up, as I was pregnant and DS was 5.

I know it's not normal in this country but as humans it is very normal. DS didn't and has never drunk anything other then breastmilk or water. He 15 now and only drinks water that's his choice.

While it's possible to substitute breastmilk, I do think it is more then just food for toddlers. It helps boost their immune system, it gives comfort and really helps when they are ill.

I may have to put dad on bedtime duty. He’s very needy and has no issue grabbing at me attempting to undress me to get to the milk. It’s very awkward and uncomfortable. I’m over it. He may live off water and never touch milk again but I’m sure he wilL get what he needs from his food.

I let my son self-wean when he was 4 years old. A lot older than I expected! I just went along with it because it was convenient and helped him to sleep, including in the middle of the night. All kids are different but from my experience most kids don’t want to stop for quite a while. I forced it with my older child when she was 2 because I was pregnant and couldn’t take it anymore. She went ballistic.

I fed his brother previously and he reluctantly stopped as I dried up due to pregnancy. He was nearly 2. He had a wobble but was no where near as upset. I do think it’s boosting his immune system though as he’s rarely ill. At most he’s caught a mild cold twice. What ever went round the house he never got it. I would love for him to wean himself off soon if he is going to.

I planned on breast feeding for a year but it’s turned into 2. Forcing it with him is awful 😞 he’s screaming the place down loosing it. I’m sure the neighbours have heard him wondering what on earth is going on! I keep giving in after 10 minutes but maybe I need to be tough.

What distraction methods have you tried? Distraction did work for my most determined one at 2, he was obsessed with ice lollies so I stocked the freezer up and every time he asked for milk I'd say yes but do you want an ice lolly first? Until the cycle was broken

I agree with the others. You don’t need to get him drinking milk before stopping. Both of mine would hardly ever touch the stuff until BFing had stopped completely.

What do you do now if he wants a feed? Have you tried offering him something like hot chocolate or diluted fruit juice and a snack? You could make some homemade lollies and give him one of those and have a cuddle whilst reading a book?

Have you tried the Don’t offer, don’t refuse method?