Still dream feeding at 13 months..

[mrschop]

Is this normal? If we don't feed her she's up at 3am screaming for milk. She has three decent meals a day, milk mid afternoon. She's walking so quite active and hungry, but I just can't seem to get her off the night feed. I've tried watering the milk down, but after a few days she's up at 3am if she doesn't get milk before we go to bed. Any ideas/advice?

does she have milk before bedtime and first thing in morning too?
If not, it could be because she's not getting enough milk?

Yes, she has a big bottle before bed, then 5oz in the morning - any more than that and she won't eat breakfast. I tried dropping the afternoon milk so she'd eat more dinner but she was even more hungry in the night so I started it again to try to get more milk down her during the day.

Not really much advice then, but I still wonder if she is getting enough milk.
My almost 13 month old DD has:
massive bf first thing
9oz of milk half of which is mixed in with her shreddies and other half she has as a drink
mid-morning fruit snack (when at nursery)
big lunch (as this is her main meal)
a bit of milk in afternoon (though she seems less and less interested)
supper
big bf before bedtime (though if she's knackered she'll only have a small feed but will still sleep through)

Just wondering, if your DD is only having 5oz in morning if she doesn't need more, but then if she doesn't have breakfast if you offer more ... no advice really, sorry.

Hope someone else comes along with some words of wisdom for you.

erm, I dreamfed ds until he was 18 mths . He was/is such a temperamental little so and so, I was too scared to stop.

annoyingdevil - love your name. I thought I was the only MNetter who favoured the dark side.

Well at least I'm not a mumsnet record at 13 months! Gives me hope she'll stop eventually. DS stopped any night feed at all at 10 weeks, was feeling rather smug about my parenting skills until DD came along!

I would try upping the solids rather than the milk - have you tried giving snacks and/or a bit of supper before bed e.g. weetabix? If you did give food before bed you might be more successful in dropping the dreamfeed.

If you're happy doing the dreamfeed and your dd defo seems happy with it, I would carry it on.

Every few weeks miss a dreamfeed and see if she wakes up.

DS had dreamfeeds until about 12/13 months and we used the baove method to tell whether he still wanted/needed them.