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Advice Needed with extended bf please

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LEMONADEGIRL · 14/06/2008 14:01

Hi my ds is 20 months and still bf. It has not been a problem until recently. He seems a bit obsessed with them while feeding he likes to hold onto the other one and if I move his hand away he then gets upset and starts being quite bullish about getting his hand back to it. He now tries to ram his hands dowm my top any time I hold or am down at his level.

What do I do to get him to stop it as its driving me a bit mad. He doesnt seem to take no for an answer.

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fondant4000 · 14/06/2008 14:09

Never wear a v-neck Sad, but true. I had to avoid all shirts, v-necks etc. with dd1 (dd2 not so bad).

Can you give hims something to play with when feeding? have noticed dd2 has to find a toy to hold before she can settle down to bf these days - sometimes a book - but I have to draw the line at enormous megasketcher!

popsycal · 14/06/2008 14:11

I had to just treat it as I would with anything that I did not want him to do. Say 'no' in a stern voice and move his hand away

MamaMammalon · 14/06/2008 14:13

It's the worst thing to hear but I think the only fair answer is you either have to accept it or stop? I would have hated to hear that so I'm sorry to say it. He doesn't think of them as boobs so much as his 'milk cup' (if that makes sense). They're his 'domain' and so at his age he expects to be able to access them when he wants which is very understandable. Do you feel like you want to stop? Or do you want to carry on? If you feel very uncomfortable with it do you think you'd rather not feed? We just stopped suddenly yesterday after 13 mths. Very odd. Awful thing to do. How wonderful is bf? I just love- loved- it. Its the most wonderful experience. It does have to stop sometime though sadly, its just up to you to decide when is right for you. I hope that isn't depressing and 'hope-less' for you. I hope you can find a solution so you continue to feed him as long as you want. xxx

thisisyesterday · 14/06/2008 14:19

just say no. and keep removing his hand. he is easily old enough to learn some nursing manners.
might take time though

serenity · 14/06/2008 14:30

DD is 4.5 and when she gets tired she still likes to have one arm down the front of my top (and it's been a good 2.5 since she last had a BF!) I think it's a comfort thing tbh, but I agree it can get a bit much in public. Your DS will learn not to do it all the time, but it's going to take a bit of perseverance and saying no until he gives up.

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LEMONADEGIRL · 14/06/2008 19:56

Thanks all for your messages.

I agree Mamam he does treat them as his domain. In fact he pushes dh out of the way sometimes.

I have felt a bit resentful recently. I suppose I have to give up at somepoint I had just wanted ds to be the one to lead the way. I had never expected to bf this long and do not anyone in rl that does so feel a bit isolated and cant talk to anyone about it as imo opinion there is such a taboo regarding it.

Thanks for the ideas ladies

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EffiePerine · 14/06/2008 19:59

I think it's more toddler stroppiness than bfing! DS does this, but he also has a strop if he can't pour his own cereal and milk (not trying that one again since he flooded the table). I just say 'no' and move his hand if I'm not comfortable with it.

He's also poking my eyes and nose a lot - maybe they're just fascinated with body parts at this age?

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