Refusing bottle

[Arsh18]

Hi need of desperate help
she will be 6 months in one week and I am returning to work on Monday. She is exclusively breast fed. She will go to nursery 9-5 from Monday . I have tried bottle Philips/ tomme tippe and sippy cup from tomm tippe/ nuby / munchkin
she refuses and cries hard with her body stiff . Moment she sees anything she will push and refuse. I tried express and giving tired formula nothing worked. I don’t know what to do please help
last 3 days she went hour a day to nursery and they tried as well refused
one day she took about 40 ml wuth2.5 ml syringe now she refuses that as well

need of desperate help
she will be 6 months in one week and I am returning to work on Monday. She is exclusively breast fed. She will go to nursery 9-5 from Monday . I have tried bottle Philips/ tomme tippe and sippy cup from tomm tippe/ nuby / munchkin
she refuses and cries hard with her body stiff . Moment she sees anything she will push and refuse. I tried express and giving tired formula nothing worked. I don’t know what to do please help
last 3 days she went hour a day to nursery and they tried as well refused
one day she took about 40 ml wuth2.5 ml syringe now she refuses that as well

You might find that if she is there for several hours without you and gets hungrier, knows breastfeeding isn't an option, she might take milk from nursery staff in a bottle.But she might not.

My youngest was a bottle refuser.She went to a childminder at 10mths and would never touch one even there all day without me, but only did 2 days and was older so could fill up on food.So wasn't a big issue for her.She also settled to sleep without being fed first wheras would never do that at home with me.

Is your baby going every week day? Could you either top her up with milk before/after nursery then them give her solids whilst there if she won't get too upset, or else pop in on your lunchbreak/during work to feed her if close by?
Or will she take milk from a sippy cup instead perhaps.....

Feel for you as it's a tricky one!

Thanks for your quick response
she will go every day 9-5/6
some days 12pm-12am with nanny once a month in weekend
i am worried about this
should I keep buying different bottles?
whstver I bought the moment she sees in my hand she will cry
will settle only if breast is offered
it’s not very close to workplace
I am more worried and anxious now

How long have you been trying to introduce a bottle? I assume a few months at least if your return to work date has been known since the start?

I dint try earlier and that’s the mistake I think. She was low weight at birth always refused pacifier. Wanted to breast feed till her weight was ok. Tried only this month

Try going out for the morning and letting her dad do it. Mine really doesn't like taking a bottle from me because he knows there's another option. It needs to be someone she knows and trusts though, it's not surprising she won't take it at nursery if she's not used to bottles.

There are lots of other tricks. It works better if they're not ravenous and distressed, so you could try whetting her appetite on the breast then sneaking a bottle in after a minute or two

Nether of mine ever took a bottle, and I spent a fortune trying every type possible. But they did take a cup. I know you’ve said you have tried a sippy cup. Have you tried a straw, or even an open cup? Yes they’ll be mess as they master it, but it would help give them good instant flow if the issue is they don’t like sucking?

If there is genuinely no way of getting fluids into her, then I’d want to know what nursery intend to do, because if she’s already refused a bottle with them, and the plan is for her to be there all day from Monday, then they need to be part of the conversation. Is there anyway of delaying your return to work? The time pressure won’t help anyone here, not least your DD who will likely start to develop a strong aversion purely because of the stress and pressure. You need to be calm, relaxed and almost unbothered - give her a cup and leave her to it

I can really relate to your concern . One of mine was the same and first child so a real worry. Eventually took a bottle from a student / trainee who just kept trying and the issue was that the heated formula was hot and the baby took much cooler feed so rejecting the bottle was partially the unfamiliarity but then the temperature resulting from those bottle warmer devices. Don’t worry it will work out!

Can you delay your return at all? I ask because a 9 month old is quite different to a 6 month old.
Can you go into feed her at lunch? Feed in the car park before drop off. But they’ll need to be able to use a cup or something inbetween.

Thanks everyone for your response. I need to go back to work but they are trying to be flexible in first week. I tried tomme tippe cup, nuby sip and tip, munchkin straw cuo
any other suggestions please

Try wrapping an item of your clothing around the cup. If it has a teat of any kind they could try making it warm.

My second was like this. I waited too long to try and he completely refused to ever have a bottle, He also wouldn't drink from any form of cup. I think he was a bit older than 6 months but anyway the health visitor was very unbothered and just said he would get all his fluids from food. I carried on breastfeeding before bed for quite some time so he did have that.