Can anyone recommend a post partum doula or night nanny in london to come stay nights with me and help with feeds and changing. Baby is 19 days and I haven’t slept more an an hour or 2 each night. I’m extremely sleep deprived and need help

[BoyMumToBe34]

a midwife or doula or night nanny recommendations please and the cost too if you know or have used a similar service

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Where in London are you ? I have an excellent recommendation dhe is North london but does travel so Essex/ West london might not be out of the question

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she is the best!!

Oh my goodness, you poor thing, I remember those days well. Awful. Have you googled doula uk? You can do a location search. I had an amazing doula but sge wouldn’t be available at short notice but I know some would be. I think doulas do day time though. Definitely worth investing in as they’ll feed you and look after you. A night nanny is what you need so you can sleep at night. I used these guys.

https://www.nightnannies.com/central-north-west-and-west-london/

I think it’s a franchise model and I used the woman who covers south east London. She was absolutely brilliant and all her night Nannies that helped me were good. I probably had about 6 over the course of two children. Look at the website and click around til you find the area you want. Really really good luck. Ps Night Nannies also help with finding maternity nurses I think

seconding Night Nannies they saved my sanity with non sleeping DS2!

It’s such a hard period. My DD is 8 months now. For us she wouldn’t sleep at all at night unless held for about 4-5 weeks. I was working on very very little sleep. 1-2hr nap in the evening while DH held her. Second child so I also had a toddler in the day and couldn’t ’sleep when the baby sleeps’.

My mum and MIL visited once a week on different days from about week 3-5 and would offer to hold her from 4am until 8am which was so helpful. So a few nights a week plus weekend DH could hold her, I managed about 2x 2hr naps vs 1x 1-1.5hr nap due to feeding as well.

Do you have any relatives who could visit who you would trust to just sit and hold them? If not hiring a night person short time could be good.

It’s incredibly hard if the baby doesn’t go down. Good luck.

My midwife advised us to co-sleep in this situation, and it was life changing. Look up the ‘safe sleep seven’ to learn how to do it safely, and welcome back sleep into your life! 😊

What an aggressive (and typical) first Mumsnet reply.

I'm sure the OP has thought about this option (if possible). She's reaching out for help at a difficult time. Give the poor woman a break.

People like you need to remove yourself off mumsnet. What a way to speak to a newly postpartum mum who is struggling. Go away and take your passive aggressive responses elsewhere. What a miserable person you must be to bring such negativity to OP

OP - hope you get through this! It is such a tough time..