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Tips on weaning high-needs toddler

9 replies

numum · 08/06/2008 19:23

Plan to wean DD by the time she is 2, she is 18 months now, and she bf's all the time! A frequent night waker, I bf her then, and I bf her during day every few hours at her request.

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TinkerbellesMum · 08/06/2008 19:35

You may find that she reduces her demand in the next six months naturally anyway. Are you following the "don't offer, don't refuse" method? Obviously there are times when you need to offer and some you need to refuse, but in normal circumstances it can help to cut the feeds back.

Do you share a room? If you are in the same room she knows you are there ready for her, in a different room you can't get straight there and she may settle herself back off better. Also try getting her dad to wake to her so you are not automatically available to her.

How is she when (if) she is looked after? I find that when my parents have Tink she sleeps a little later and doesn't worry about me not being there to feed her, often she will completely forget and I don't get asked till the next day. If you aren't spending time away from her like that it may be an idea to help her learn to get through the day without asking for milk.

numum · 08/06/2008 19:41

Those are great suggestions, I even wrote them down -
I NEVER offer. I try to distract her sometimes when she asks as she asks so often.

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Tapster · 09/06/2008 12:24

My 18 month DD is the same. However and until 2/3 weeks ago would feed several times a day, we had tackled night feeding at night when she was 12 months old. At this age they should understand what we say if we are consistent.

First week I said I will only feed you in the sofa in your bedroom, so never out and always if she wanted milk I would haul her upstairs to her room.

Second week I said I only feed when you wake up or go to sleep - this cut her down to four feeds max, sometimes when she woke up from a nap she didn't want a feed. She did have a few tantrums but distracted or bribed her - 3 chocolate buttons or 5 crisps.

Third week only fed her morning and night, we are still only getting used to this. Putting her down to sleep for her nap and her howling was awful but the first two days she only howled for 10mins and now she has stopped. I have introduced a ritual of reading her a book in her grobag, throwing her toys into the cot one by one, and singing the same song as I put her in the cot. She just talks for a while and falls asleep.

Next I need to tackle cutting the night time feed - arghhhh. Don't know how to do that but have started introducing rituals.

I'm trying to ttc, and with two early miscarriages and my age I have started to wean, but I would like to keep the 2 feeds until she is 2 but DH disagrees .

My DD was feedin 8-10 times a day so there is hope. You have to be strong and consistent and not give in which is hard.

numum · 09/06/2008 16:42

thanks for the ideas. I wish you all the best as you ttc and for a healthy pregnancy.

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CantSleepWontSleep · 09/06/2008 17:03

What are your reasons for wanting to wean numum?

numum · 09/06/2008 20:34

Think am in early days of pregnancy (too early to test).

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Tapster · 09/06/2008 20:58

If I would you I would cut down to morning and night and hope DD self weans during your pregnancy, that was my hope.

CantSleepWontSleep · 09/06/2008 21:31

You do know that you don't have to give up just because you're pregnant don't you? (Am 24 weeks pg and still feeding 2.4 yo dd myself). As Tapster says, lots (about 1/2 to 2/3) of children self-wean during pregnancy anyway, as the taste of the milk changes, and it can dry up your supply too. So the easiest thing might be just to carry on as you are at the moment, although for the sake of your own tiredness I think I'd try and cut out the night wakes. I'm sure at this age she will be expecting a bf at night through habit rather than thirst/need.

numum · 09/06/2008 23:42

Thanks. I wasn't planning on tandem feeding, but my DD is a die-hard bfeeder. I think she wouldn't self-wean during pregnancy. We are planning to try to cut out the night wakes - DH will have to take care of that when we are feeling brave. We plan to around her 2nd bday. All the LLL stuff I have read to learn how to wean has convinced me of the merits of extended bfeeding but I think it sounds very complicated with 2 children. I am feeling guilty at "having" to wean DD, but more overwhelmed at the notion of tandem feeding.

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