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Bfing over 12 months

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sausagecake · 06/06/2008 08:14

How to your family feel now you have fed your little darlings over a year. Have they continued to support you?

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sausagecake · 06/06/2008 08:14

DO sorry. Haven't had my morning coffee yet?

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beansprout · 06/06/2008 08:16

Yes, dh is completely fine with it and it is not anyone else's business!

Piffle · 06/06/2008 08:26

Dp is fine and supportive. In laws not shocked understand why but can tell they think I'm not the norm!
mum is chuffed she digs bf lots!

cmotdibbler · 06/06/2008 08:44

Ds weaned a few weeks ago, aged nearly two. DH was totally supportive, rest of the family not so much at all. Some of my colleagues very prone to bitty remarks.

However, since he went to morning and evening feeds aged around 14 months, no one really had to notice that much.

hobbity · 06/06/2008 08:55

my dh is fine with it too (ds is 16months now) think he's quite happy not to have to mess around with bottles, mil couldnt bf at all herself and she's just haapy that the little terror is healthy and happy!

chipmonkey · 06/06/2008 09:15

I bf ds3 till he was 2.8. Dh was fine with it. MIL kept going on about "That programme on Channel 4" My Mum bf my brother till he was 3 so obviously was fine with it!

constancereader · 06/06/2008 09:18

IL think nothing of it, seems normal to them.

My family a little confused but willing to go along with my statement of
"Yes it's brilliant isn't it, I never thought I would get this far!"
if the subject is raised.

Sushipaws · 06/06/2008 09:35

My dd is 14months and still bf'ing.
My dh is generally supportive but he does occationally say things like "You'll have to stop some time." But I think he just worries that i'll end up bf'ing a 5yo.

My in-laws are fab and very supportive. My Mum thinks it's a bit hippyish because she didn't bf, but she generally is good.

My Dad and his wife think it's weird and make comments quite allot. I perticularly like to wind them up now and think it's funny when they get all flustered, silly people don't realise whats normal these days.

My Dad asked when I was thinking of giving up bf'ing, I told him I'd stop when dd stopped and that may be any time before she's 3. He almost choked on his cuppa tea and then mubbled something about feminists and lesbians, which made me laugh even more.

I think all that matters is how you feel about bf'ing. I personally want to give my dd the best and we both enjoy it. I don't feed her in public anymore as she only does the morning and bedtime.

Swaliswan · 06/06/2008 14:20

DD is just over 12mo and my family are not very supportive. My mum told my DD that she couldn't have an afternoon milk feed the other day because she is a big girl now and doesn't need it That 'extreme BF' programme on channel 4 and Little Britain have a lot to answer for. Even my MIL (a midwife) stopped trying to be supportive when DD was 6 mo. My FIL and SMIL thought it was weird that I was BFing at all and that "she should be on something more than milk by now" when she was 11 weeks old so I just ignore them. There have been a few comments that I couldn't feed discretely now and therefore shouldn't feed in front of anyone. I must say I do agree to a point but only because I don't want DD trying to show someone else my boob and 'share' it with them if we were in the middle of a cafe.

As for DH, I don't think that he knows what to say to people now that DD is one because there is no longer the reason of not buying FF for me to carry on BF. He pointed out that I must be in the minority now even if I consider it 'normal'. He assumed that I would give up BFing at 12 months but he is always more than happy for me to be the one to get up at 6am and put DD to bed.

Sushipaws · 06/06/2008 14:33

Do you know my dd tries to lift up my top and get a snuggle in when she's tired. I've flashed my boobs all over Britain and I don't really care. If people want to be offended by something thats natural and regarded as normal in the rest of the world, then those people are petty and not worth bothering about. Sausagecake, if you want to keep feeding then go for it, don't let your feelings be swayed by people who don't know what bf'ing means to you and your lo.

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sausagecake · 06/06/2008 14:45

Thanks for your replies. My dd is 14mo now and I still find it completely natural and am loving the closeness. I am getting more and more comments from family and friends though, I did find it irritating at first.. now it upsets me a little. You are right Swaliswan - Little Britain and that Extreme Bfing programme do have a lot to answer for.

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