Your daughter feeding all evening is a good reason to stop bf - time to give some discipline - says GP. Discuss/advise!

[lou031205]

For the last few months I have had eczema, and some on my breast. I went to the GP 2 weeks ago as it had got infected. Prescribed antibiotics didn't work, so diff ones given, and I am half way through with no change.

Doc asked me if I still wanted to bf my dd (0.9), to which I said yes, and I know she wants it!

She feeds most of the evening, and will not settle in her cot without me to feed her. She also wakes several timess a night for feeds. I have accepted this is the way it is right now.

When I mentioned this, the GP said "So she gives you quite a lot of trouble then. All the better for changing to a bottle. It sounds like she wants you all yo herself. Time to get a break to build yourself up again. She needs some discipline."

TBH I was quite shocked. I must admit that I would like her to go to sleep in the evening without being clamped to my chest, but is this a reason to stop bf?

First of all, it's none of your GPs bloody business. Plus her failure to cure an infection has nothing to do with your DD being an evening feeder. Most kids do this at that age.

Ignore her - you are doing great. You might want to try acupuncture for your eczema though.

BTW it will change, as she gets older she will feed less in the evening - but that is the point in the day when your supply is most plentiful (though it may not feel like it) so she's stocking up.

Really, at 9 months old?

I stopped feeding DD1 at 7 months

Are you happy to still feed her? If so, carry on, its doing both of you good. Really not sure about disapline at 9months?? My dhs GP told him that we needed to 'get tough' and leave dd to cry because she was waking up in the night at 6mo. DH went for a repeat prescription of painkillers for his back!! I was a bit GPs aren't baby experts, but all seem to have an opinion.

oh what crap, if you;'re happy feeding her then what's the problem?

it sounds like she wants you all to herself>? well duh, she's a baby and she loves you and you're her world,. of course she does... and why does the GP think that's a bad thing????

jeez, people really need to think before they open their mouths sometimes

What kind of a society do we live in when babies breast-feeding as nature intended them to are seen as miscreants in need of discipline????

Have you tried rubbing a bit of breastmilk on the eczma patches?

I don't know. I walked in with a breast infection, and got given advice about parental discipline and career advice

Does your GP know anything about breastfeeding or babies? Because s/he sounds like a bit of an arse.

It really is no reason to stop. Only stop if you want to.

My DD stopped snacking through the night at 10 months.

By the way, your GP is a cock. But you knew that already, right?

MY DD is still snacking through the night at 11 months. I'm still okay with it. Stop if you're fed up, but not because your GP is!

Also, I find that if I sleep in the guest room and DH sleeps with her, she'll settle right back down to sleep without a feed. Just wants a snack because it's there.

lou - don't worry I had an emergency doctor claim that the reason DD had a stomach upset was because I was 'still' breastfeeding at 11 months. I replied: 'what bollocks' and then complained to her boss because I know others would have believed her.

Doctors are fallable. They think they are helping. In fact GPs can talk out of their arses along with the rest of us.

What's to discuss? Your GP is an arse. Get a new one.

Yes, discipline a 9 month old. She'll understand. What a weirdo GP.

What are you comfortable with?

She won't always be clamped to your chest. It will change from week to week, month to month.

Can you express for example? How is her weaning going?

Take heart and do what you feel is best for you and your daughter. w

Thank you all. I am happy breastfeeding her. She is a sensitive baby (not at all like DD1), and she really loves her breastmilk.

Obviously, I am a bit at a loss to see how I can get her to go to bed in the evening at 7pm, (I have tried putting her down after feeding her and she wakes within 45 minutes. She gets beside herself very quickly, and will not be settled unless fed to sleep, whereby the process begins again).

I have got around the night-wakings by co-sleeping with a bedside cot.

He also suggested that if I don't return to work (am a registered nurse), I will lose all my confidence and my career would be over. I have intended on resigning, so I can be at home for a while.

I did wonder about using breastmilk on the eczema, but didn't know if it would help the bacteria breed? (Warm, moist area).

So I am confused now, because I feel that DD not settling is my fault. But how can it be, she is just a baby. She surely can't be manipulative in the true sense of the word. SHe just wants her mummy.

Winky she eats like a horse. Loves her solids, infact is starting to turn her nose up at anything slightly 'mushy' and would rather share our dinner (sausage casserole tonight, so she was chewing big pieces of sausage eagerly!).

She won't take a bottle. But would take a cup.

Breastmilk is antibacterial so that won't be an issue.

Your DD not settling is just her I'm afraid, my DD was the same, some kids are. It's nothing you are doing wrong or nothing she's intending to do.

I'm sure you are doing the whole sleep routine thing and settling her properly, so just hang in there a bit longer. DD started sleeping more at 10 months.

Have you said anything to your GP about anxiety returning to work for him/her to come to the conclusion that you "will lose all (your) confidence and (your) career would be over,"?

If not, then the GP is talking of things that will make you feel unnecessarily anxious.

Would you be prepared to wait another week to see how your DD goes and if she changes at all? Have you tried offering her a sippy cup of EBM instead and get your DH to give it to her?

Your gp is an incompetent git.

All babes are different. Some like boob more than others.

I currently have a 13 month old whose idea of heaven is for me to sit down with my tits hanging out so that he can have a slurp whenever he feels like it, and he feels like it a lot!! Baby before him happily lost interest at about 7 months.

No, I am not anxious about returning to work, infact have decided to be a SAHM for a while. It is just because I am a Nurse that he commented that it is (IHO) difficult to return after a break.

I don't think she will change in a week, but also don't think she needs to IYSWIM - she is a baby, and this is what babies do. It just sent me into a flat spin that my GP was so negative about her feeding.

I despair of some of my GP colleagues sometimes. Sorry you've had to listen to such crap. I think you can safely ignore it.

He's talking crap. If you want to reduce the evening and night feeds, then the No Cry Sleep Solution is great.

Theres loads of 'back to nursing courses now, designed for women like you, so its in no way the end of your career to take a break. Some people just can't resist commenting - my friends obs consultant told her that there was no way she'd be able to work with twins, and that she should have 7 years at home....

Thank you emma. I will!