Anyone else given up bfeeding a toddler this week? Feeling very sad but relieved too...

[Shitemum]

DD2 is 20 mo and had her last bfeed a couple of days ago. She is still asking for 'tit' at bedtime but I am distracting her with story books and a cuddly toy, which she has become attached to after I encouraged it in preparation for ending bfeeding...

I just started to feel she was using me as a dummy and it hurt as her teeth got in the way, she left huge teeth-marks on me...also she often still wouldn't nap after 20 - 30 mins on the breast so I was getting annoyed with her....feel like I'm making excuses...

She is sleeping through the night every night now tho, and wasn't before...

Anyone else need a pat on the back for a job well-done and some sympathy too?

DD is 19 months old, I'm 31 weeks pregnant and I'm still going but god it's hard. I can completely understand why you stopped.

You did bloody brilliantly to get to 20 months. It's something like 6% of women who make it to six months and you did so much better than that!

Chin up, go out and buy yourself a nice bra in a few weeks. You deserve it!

WMMC - thanks, unfortunately my norks have shrunk so much I hardly need a bra now! Maybe ths summer I'll just go back to sticking sellotape on my nipples so the old boys don't stare...

..and well done you too for getting this far!

Yeah you see this is why I'm carrying on. I know once I have this baby I will have so much milk I'll be able to feed not only DS and DD but also several small herds of children if I want too and I'm scared I might go back to human-sized tits if I stopped!

good going for bf. You dd will have benefited so much so really big pat on the back.

Every story has two sides & the hard part is getting through her stopping bf. It's great you have organised a cuddly toy. Hope everything will go well & that her nights sleep will continue.

Not this week, but 3 weeks ago - DS was 2 this week, and a business trip away seemed a good point to quit (although I told DH that I might not stick to this if DS was distressed). Apart from a few half hearted requests for num nums which were easily distracted with a cup of milk, its been no problem at all, so he was obviously ready to give up too.

You did a fab job ! May I recommend maxcleavage.com for fab bras with a little (quite a lot actually) help. S'not fair though. I made it to an F cup at one point of my bfing journey, but am back to a B now. Sniff.

nope still going strong at 27 months

Well done, i have stopped bf dd 17months 2weeks ago during the day, i still feed her at night. I too was sad at first but after a few days she really was not as bothered as i thought she would be. Problem i have now is cutting out night feeds and trying to get used to underwire bras again xx well done again xx

Hi all, ive just started to feed dd formula during the day and just bfeed her morning and night, am feeling quite sad actually as im sure she wouldnt mind if she had formula all the time xx

17 months at the moment and I'm thinking of stopping v soon. The time is right for me now I think.

no more babies .... so not quite sure how I feel.

Thanks all - I had to give her a feed from one side at bedtime tonight as I felt a bit swollen and sore. She was pleased and so was I!

Hello again!
I fed DS1 till he was 2 and hs weaned himself gradually when I was pregnant.
I did find it easier to phase it out very gradually, as did he.
And well done you!!

Hi! (are you following me? )

Yes, DD1 gave up with no fuss at all at 17 mo, only took a week. She'd been down to one feed a day for a long time before tho.

Am feeling more emotional about it this time round as DD2 will probably be my last...

Maybe I could just offer her a bedtime feed a couple of times a week till she stops asking, which she doesn't always,...then we'll both be happy...

Lucky for all of you that you have stopped bf, my dd is 10months and I want to stop but know I will miss it when I do...

She is a booboholic so i'm sure I will be bf for quite abit longer... Also she bit me while bf today..

we stopped this week.DS2 is 17m at weekend. would have gone on forever but time was right TBH. well done everyone!!

I'm feeling quite proud because 4yrs and nine months ago I was in floods of tears with a newbie who was shrinking more that desired,plugged into a "milking machine"(not a lovely pump, something antique and horrendous!) and being told that obviously it was my inability to bf that was THE problem!!

my boobs ache a bit, especially when ds1 and ds2 decide to jump on mum. And I think it'll be a week or two before my poor dh will be allowed near them(they need a holiday!)I'm a bit sad to lose my special time(excuse to be away from dh and ds1 bed routine) with ds2.

spina - well done. I have to admit to giving DD2 the odd feed every 2 or 3 days...makes it feel less definitive...

Well done, DD 18 months I want to stop she doesn't I've cut down to 3-4 feeds, need to face cutting down to more but I'm too exhausted to put up with the tantrums. I need to be brave. Two early miscarriages in a row has put the pressure onto me to stop.

Well done Shitemum - I know how it feels I stopped feeding ds at around 22m and dd is just about to stop I think. It is hard but you have done so well

My dd is 2y 1m and I have started the stopping process I think. I am 20 weeks pg and have been suffering a bit with breast tendernes and dd has been chewing me rather than suckling iykwim. She needs to go into her own room fulltime as well. We had a bit of a setback earlier this year as dd had a few nasty tummy bugs and was so unsettled by it she returned to the family bed full-time.

Me and dh are getting fed up with being pushed out by dd as she has a tendency to spread out and kick/ scratch so our co-sleeping days are at an end I think. Especially as I am taking up more room now!

DD can go to sleep w/out a feed now - and she is happy with a cup of milk. I feel sad, but I am glad we have had the time feeding that we have though it has been hard this year. And I have to prepare myself for the new feeding relationship with dc 3 in Oct.

I am about to try this weekend! Going away to a friend's wedding leaving DD with DH for 48hrs, longest separation yet. Will try to not-restart bf when back.

She is 17mo and absolutely lovely. We are down to one feed at bedtime, it's a nice time for us both, quiet, dark & babe in arms, nice after a long day at work (am back full time).

We cut out the morning feed at 14mo when we stayed with grandparents for 3 weeks - not deliberate, but they would pick her up in the morning to play / have breakfast whilst I slept in and she never asked for it..

Half of me is thinking that now is a good chance to cut out the evening feed too, she just needs the cuddle rather than the milk (not sure how much if anything she's getting..). Am I mad? Bf her now is quite lovely as I realise there's not too long to go one way or another, but would be nice if her dad wd be able to put her to sleep now and again..And we do have to stop at some point...

I know no-one else can decide for us...I will be sad when I stop whenever that is, although I know we're both more or less ready...((wistful emoticon))

I'm in a similar situation, just 1 feed at bedtime, and dd is 19 months. I think I'm ready to stop - sometimes I feel a bit irritable when she's feeding - and she can be quite rough, but I can't seem to decide when to make the break...

Tips needed for weaning - did you give cows milk morning and evening. Have tried this with DD for 6 months and she won't drink it. Tried hot and cold no avail. Not sure what to give instead. Have just given crisps instead of a day feed .