Why does BF make sex so repulsive?

[BeNiftyPanda]

Intrigued to know why. Tiredness? Overstimulated?

I reckon dehydration is a big part of it

Overstimulated, touched out, feeling like your body doesn’t belong to you/belongs to your baby, still mentally and physically healing from birth.

I get it!

I read that as why does boyfriend make sex so repulsive. 🙈

I think it’s at least partly hormonal (as well as tiredness and being touched out)

Evolution. It isn’t in the baby’s interest for you to have another baby whilst still breastfeeding

😂😂😂 me too !! I couldn’t fathom the replies at all.

Me too! I was thinking ‘We need more details, OP’! 😂

Designed by nature (clever) to protect you from getting pregnant again. Typically, weaning starts at 6 month mark when your child stomach walls are developed enough to handle other foods. That’s when we drop frequency of BF and may be likely to get pregnant again. My mother in law said that in Ghana in her mothers’s days women used to have a child every 18 months roughly. So it’s all by design, I reckon, to protect your energy caring for the infant before you conceive another one.

Too much physical touch

This is (partly) why I never have and never will breastfeed

I did too 🤣🤭

It's just mother natures way of protecting you from pregnancy. Same reason a lot of women don't want sex when they are young pregnant. You're already pregnant and the purpose of sex is to reproduce so why would your body want it when it's done its job?

Your body also isn't your own when breast feeding which is why it makes it so gross

I didn’t breastfeed but felt very icky about sex when my babies were tiny; I just felt like I spent so much time wiping bums and cleaning genitals that all my thoughts about that region were very…biological and mechanical.

The hormones cause a lot of dryness FYI which makes it not great.

I BF all of mine for over 2 years each and I wouldn’t say it was breast feeding that lowered my sex drive… I’d say my sex drive was lower between 1-7 months post partum, but that was due to a number of factors linked to having just had a baby. I’m still breastfeeding now and my sex life has never been better.

I didn’t get my sex drive back into I started ovulating again. And pregnancy itself killed my sex drive entirely.

I wouldn’t recommend that people base their decision to bf on the fact it might lower their sex drive @FlowersandElephants

That's a very strange reason not to breastfeed. Sex is still very much possible and on the cards, but you may not have the same drive as before.

Is it that strange that I want to enjoy my sex life and not feel tied to a baby?

For me it was being touched out, knackered and struggling with depression. It continued long after I stopped breastfeeding. My partner was slightly creeped out by the milk from by breasts after being woken up in the night by it squirting him in the eye after my breast pad on my non feeding side slipped off. I had quite a forceful let down!

It was a lean 3y including the 9m of pregnancy but then went back to normal.