Weaning my 18 month old

[Laurenfrancoise96]

Sorry this is a long post just looking for advice please but feel like i need to give background.
My 18 month old DD has been exclusively breastfed from birth. Tried to introduce soooo many different types of bottles around 6 months but it was too late and she refused them all and has never been into dummies since about 2 months old. She was a late eater we did BLW as she refused to let us feed her always wanted to be independent lol but wasn't properly interested in food until 12 months.
Fast forward to now and she drinks booby milk about 2 times in the day if its a good day (nap and afternoon) or more if she's sick/nervous when out and about/upset.
At night she has never slept well. Always woke every 1-2 hours and I always nursed her back to sleep in bed together as it was the quickest and easiest thing.
We just started to start night weaning this past week so she's having no milk from 10pm to about 5-6am which is working as my husband is having to rock her to sleep everytime she wakes.
I guess my problem is I want to wean her completely. My milk supply has massively dropped and it's frustrating her trying to get the milk out so she's biting my booby and crying and saying milk. Would it just be better to completely go cold turkey and just say no more booby and put up with the tears for a few days/weeks or will this damage her and I need to keep doing it super slow?
I am feeling really overwhelmed and over breastfeeding and starting to resent it alongside my supply drop. Plus we want to get pregnant again and still haven't had my first period despite almost weaning.
This is super long so thank you if you have read it all and please give me some advice 🙏 😊 🤦‍♂️💗

I've been there! I remember weaning being very hard, but also like you getting to the point where I had had enough. My period did not return until I weaned completely.

You aren't damaging them by weaning them, a complete stop may be best for you. A complete stop involved me wearing a lots of polo necks and scarfs to limit access, but also I had to put up with them constantly putting their hand down my top for comfort. Annoying and embarrassing in public!

I used a lot of distraction and just bribed with food/ snacks to get through it. Didn't take long once I'd put my foot down and decided to go for it. And I did a fair amount of back carries to still give cuddles, but no access to front.

I did all this when oldest was 23 months. BTW, I was pregnant again within a month. Keep that as your goal!

I did a complete stop, I knew my little girl would react better to that than having it sometimes but not all the time. She was cross for a day but soon got over it and now she sees me feeding her sibling and can't believe she ever drunk from me 🤣
You can absolutely decide no more feeding OP

I also went complete cold turkey, DS was a bit younger than your DD but it went better than I expected. Good luck OP.

Thank you all so much so nice to wake up to these comments of encouragement, I am thinking more and more will just go cold turkey. I have two weeks of annual leave starting Monday and my mum is visiting for a few nights so maybe will bite the bullet then! 🙃 🙏🤞🤞