I want to stop breastfeeding my one month old.

[newmumbaby22]

I want to stop breastfeeding my one month old.

she’s happy and feeds well etc, no issue but I just don’t want to do it anymore.

I miss being able to take a shower or take my 3 year old out alone

Have tried partner to give bottle but she just will not take to it. Have tried different bottles and tests and even the ready made infant formula bottles we got for the hospital bag ‘just in case’

I feel guilty for wanting to stop and taking it away from her but I just don’t want to do it anymore

Is it too late for her to ‘learn” to take a bottle?

I’m sorry I have no real advice but I will say I know several people who gave up breast feeding in the first six months whose babies went onto bottles then. So I wouldn’t think it’s too late.

It’s not too late, absolutely not. It might take some perseverance but she’ll get there.

My eldest took some time. We introduced a bottle every day. My DH would do it so she couldn’t smell me. She’d cry. She’d refuse it, and then one day she took it.

It’s ok to want to stop. You don’t need to feel guilty. Are you feeling ok or a bit low?

Kindly OP, if you died or had to go into hospital she would have to learn and adults around her would have to help her.

Do it!

@SoftPillow

i really hope so. We have ordered some slower teats as she seems to gulp and scream whenever she manages to latch the bottle.

feelinf rather low, partner has gone back to work and I just feel like everything would be fine if I just continued to feed her as she is happy then. Partner is also finding it stressful as she won’t take the bottle and he wants to help and support my choices but I can see it is having an affect on him

If you're not happy about breast feeding it's perfectly fine to stop if you want. Dont feel guilty.
It's not too late to go to bottles. It's a long time ago now (19 years) - but with mine i went to a mixture of bottle and breast feeding. Everyone told me it wouldn't work and baby would get confused between breast and bottle etc. We just persevered and tried a few different teat shapes until we found one she took to. The point is you can do what ever works for you.
If you want to go to all bottle - that's perfect fine - just persevere. Try a teat with a higher flow rate perhaps to le the milk flow a bit easier? Also agree with pp to get your partner to try as then baby can't smell your milk at the same time.

Good Luck -do what works for you.

To give you some hope. We managed to get my bottle refusing 10 month old on to foul tasting dairy free formula from ebf. At the time she refused nearly all food, couldn't look at a bottle never mind put it in her mouth. She went on to continue to be formula fed until 2 as it took that long for her to eat enough to stop formula.

It did take going cold turkey as I was in hospital and she had to go home to dad which wasn't ideal and obviously not appropriate in your situation.

My daughter started accepting a bottle at 2-3 weeks but reflux and allergies caused intermittent bottle aversions. One time I managed to get her accepting a bottle again by offering 1oz of fresh expressed breastmilk after each day time feed. It took 3 days to go from not going near the bottle to accepting the teat but not sucking to drinking from a bottle and then would accept a bottle from dad.
The feed we found easiest for dad to give was the 7am feed he'd take her downstairs whilst I caught up on sleep.

How's your letdown? You might have success with a teat matching the flow of your milk. We used the lanisoh variflow tests. I had a fast letdown and my daughter was happiest after chewing a bigger hole in the teat although this then triggered her reflux and had to replace the teat!

Definitely don’t feel guilty. I despised BF.

You don't have to justify wanting to stop BFing OP. Not at all.

If you look on the MN archive there will be lots of previous threads about little bottle refusers