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Infant feeding

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can anyone build me an isolation booth to bf my ridiculous 4/5mth dd in?! please tell me this gets better?!

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Caz10 · 25/04/2008 18:21

dd is 19wks and this past week or so has reached new levels of silly-ness in how easily distracted and nosey she is when feeding! she pops off to look at the slightest thing, cranes her neck and head all the way back to look at passing people/dogs/cars/anything leaving my boob flopping in the wind. when i'm at home i've tried going into the bedroom to get her away from household noise etc, only to find her breaking off, mesmorised by the digital display on the alarm clock. feeding in cafes etc is getting to be a nightmare and i'm having to use feeding rooms where there is one, which kind of defeats the purpose of going out for coffee!

she has also started feeding more at night, which i'm sure is a result of day time feeds being shorter. i know all this is normal, but will it improve?!

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guineamango · 25/04/2008 19:57

Have you tried giving her a toy to hold and concentrate on while she feeds? When in really public places I used to drape a muslin over my shoulder covering baby and boob! Hang in there she should settle down.

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Caz10 · 26/04/2008 19:40

thank you! have a million muslins so will try that when out and about, thank you. i do actually have a nursing necklace, bought it about a month ago in an effort to stop her clawing and scratching, but she was furious at being given plastic beads instead of human flesh! will give it another go though now that she is a bit older. her current favourite is to have her hand in my mouth, pulling on my bottom lip...painful but it seems to help her concentrate! they are funny little things aren't they?!

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sushistar · 26/04/2008 20:55

Oh i so relate to this, ds is doing exactly the same. My current solution is to drape a pashmina over baby and boob, and pin his uppermost arm down. But he's just figured that if he can grab the scarf and PULL, he's FREE!!

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Caz10 · 26/04/2008 21:02

lol sushistar!

i have to pin her arm down too, it is a pain though as I was used to bf-ing being a 1 handed affair, with a hand free to read, surf through MN etc! Now I need both hands to pin her in place!

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B1977 · 26/04/2008 21:04

BF necklace sounds like a good idea.

Otherwise baby blanket with holes in over your shoulder and behind her back?

onepieceoflollipop · 26/04/2008 21:04

Imo this is one of the trickiest stages. In a few more weeks she will be starting on solids and less "desperate" for feeds particularly in the day. My dd2 is now 8 months and for the past 1-2 months it has been much better.

When we go out now she is generally too nosey to be interested in a b/f, but because she can feed herself little snacks and accept a little drink of water in a doidy cup, she waits happily til we get home.

You have done so well to get this far. I remember finding it v hard around the 4/5 month mark. And she definitely started to feed more at night to make up for lost day feeds.

whomovedmychocolate · 26/04/2008 21:05

Don't laugh, but I attached a Squish onto the other bra strap from the one I was feeding off (using the nursing cup strap to secure it). DD would nursing while fiddling.

They do grow out of it. Mind you she's still a little fidget. If the cat jumps on the bed when she's feeding she turns round without letting go to have a look

drjane · 26/04/2008 21:15

I found that what made the biggest difference at this age was to make sure ds was properly hungry before I fed him, so I went to feeding him approx every 4 hours (from every 2-3 hours). I was initially worried that he wouldn't get enough milk this way, but he took more at each sitting so it kind of evened out

ilovewashingnappies · 26/04/2008 21:19

I have a crinkly toy that I crinkle when boob begins to 'flop in the wind' (hheeeeheeee), This seems to pull her back in a bit. Also wearing three thin tops helps - bottom one has low nexk that goes under boob to hide my saggy tum, middle one she holds, top one I flap over when required.

getting too warm now though!

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Caz10 · 27/04/2008 19:45

thanks all!

whomovedmychocolate what is a squish?!! sounds like a good idea anyway!

drjane i had been wondering about that, we seem to have a lot of small, short, faffy feeds. i tend to put her on myself before she is really asking to be fed too much, might wait it out a bit and see if that helps.

ilovewashingnappies i know what you mean re the warmer weather, i'm a bit gutted actually, as layering a couple of tops has always been my bf in public solution, but the past few days i've been roasting!

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Caz10 · 27/04/2008 19:51

onepieceoflollipop that is a good point re the solids - means I could go out for lunch/coffee and prob not have to bf at all? (priorities you see! )

B1977 - kind of like a poncho?

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chunkypudding · 27/04/2008 20:10

caz10... i really know how you feel - see the thread i started today about my ds not feeding in the afternoons...

i've actually got really stressed and worried about it today as he normally is a real guzzler - have decided to chill out tho - he feeds fine when he wants to so i guess its ok...

must admit i'm finding bf suddenly quite hard - with all the clawing, nipple twisting and scratching, even a 'good' feed leaves me feeling like i've been beaten up!

i was thinking of a dinky little strait jacket to go with your isolation booth

i'm not a bad mum really honest.

going back to more sleepless nights is a toughie innit?

onepieceoflollipop · 27/04/2008 23:13

Caz if your dd takes to blw or finger foods in a couple of months time, you and she can both go out for lunch together. She will sit in the highchair and eat bits of bread and butter or whatever and have a drink of water, then be already for a big b/feed and snuggly afternoon sleep when you get home!

whomovedmychocolate · 29/04/2008 16:49

caz10 - sorry I only just saw this this is a squish you can get them at toyshops or mail order.

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Caz10 · 29/04/2008 19:03

heee i thought that was a squish, we actually have one, lol at having it hanging from your bra strap, but i'm going to try it tomorrow!!

chunkypudding i would buy that jacket!!!

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whomovedmychocolate · 29/04/2008 19:58

Honestly Caz - anything that keeps them pointed in the wrong direction and not turning round while hanging onto your boob has to be worth a try. I will warn you though it actually makes quite a lot of noise because it's close to your head and they bash them!

ExtraFancy · 29/04/2008 20:04

Yes, it will improve! My DS was a right bugger for this when he was the same age. Now he's 9mo, and because we did BLW I can pop him in a highchair and let him entertain himself with bits of cheese/bread/banana when we're out. He drinks water from a sippy cup, and generally doesn't need to be BFed when we're out any more.

He's still a distractible little so-and-so in the evenings though - especially when he hears his daddy's key in the door

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Caz10 · 01/05/2008 19:33

in M&S cafe today...cue LOTS of little old ladies stopping on their way past to coo over dd and say how nice it is to see someone bf-ing (which is lovely, i know) - dd pops off to grin and shriek at EVERY one of them...sigh, i remember when my nipples used to be quite private things..

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