Help I’m leaving my baby in 2 nights!

[Mummyggg333]

can somebody give me some advice please? I’m going out for my friends birthday that’s been planned for a while now. My LO is 7 months old and is EBF. He refuses to take a bottle and I’ve tried every bottle there is. I would be leaving the house near his bedtime but He wakes up in the night and wants milk for comfort and seems to be the only way he goes back to sleep. I don’t think it’s because he’s hungry but I just don’t know what to do! I went out for a night when he was 5 months old and he eventually took a bottle after refusing for a while and he slept fine but I’m just worried he’s gotten more fussy. Has anyone experienced this?

I went back to work when my ebf bottle refuser was a similar age. He lived to tell the tale! He very quickly started reverse cycling (feeding lots while I was around and accepting that it was the bottle (or cup, which he did accept) when I wasn't available).
For one night your baby will be ok. Will you be ok though? If you're going to spend the night worried* then is it worth putting yourself through?

*no judgement from me. I was in a state of worry too, but just had to get on with it.

He's 7 months old so he doesn't need a feed overnight for sustenance. He is waking for the lovely comfort of milk and if he's with your mum he will get the lovely comfort and milk if he wants it. He'll be just fine. Go and enjoy your milk.

Enjoy your night 😂

Also unless I'm missing something, although your dc is ebf, i presume they have some solids too? So milk is not their only source of nutrition. I'd honestly try not to worry and go and have some fun. Make sure you hand express a bit if you start to feel engorged!

Thanks your all your messages I am going to go but just because I know he will be fine. He loves my mum very much and he can’t get closer to being with me than her. She’s works with toddlers it’s her job and she has had 3 children so she knows what she’s doing m. She would never let him go hungry and I wouldn’t leave him if I thought it was such a bad idea. I didn’t expect to see so many comments against it I only asked for advice.

Yes he eats 3 meals a day!!! Thank you

Of course it's because you are there. Why would your baby want a bottle when it smells milk on you?

I feel quite sorry for you op with some of these replies! He's 7 months, not 7 weeks. It sounds like he'll take a bottle when you're not there and if he's on 3 meals and is starving at 2am then your mum can probably just give him some porridge or mushy banana or something, if he won't take a bottle. Like someone said, of course he's fussy around you for milk. Also sounds like you could get back in an emergency.

Enjoy your night and don't be mum-guilt-tripped!

Glad to hear it. We women sometimes martyr ourselves and it’s a shame. Have a great time!

He'll be fine. A break will do you the world of good. He's with someone who is going to give him the very best care and will let you know if there's an issue. Please take a deep breath, relax and enjoy the eve.

Either he takes a bottle or doesn't. Also he'll be waking because he's hungry.

Aww your mum sounds lovely and that she will try her best before interrupting your night x
Some of my ideas are
She could try cuddling him wearing something you wear, maybe a dressing gown? And is it possible for your bedtime routine on the night that she puts him to bed rather than you, so it's not as much of a surprise to him when he wakes up?

Hey everyone he took the bottle straight away when I wasn’t there. The bottle i used was Lansinoh and he loved it!

Hooray! So glad you went