friend told 3 day old's suck was too weak , wasn;t gaining enough weight, and she needed a bottle

[hatwoman]

...I loved b-feeding and I feel both slightly dubious about this advice and sad that, as a result, my friend will miss out. It's probably 10 days or so ago now and I don't know the ins and outs. I didn't say anything because the absolute last thing I want to do is make her feel remotely guilty, or even make her feel like she's been given duff advice (and I'm not sure she has....). but it bothers me a bit that this might be a stpid mid-wide / health visitor...

two questions: anyone know if this advice does seem questionable? any opinions on whether I should say anything? I fear I will probably just make things worse.

Bear in mind that it might be the excuse your friend is using; women often feel they need to excuse themselves somehow when they stop breastfeeding.

But yes, that advice is questionable. Although I don't think I would say anything if I thought it would make things worse.

At three days old, shes hardly had time for her milk to come in, and most babies would still be losing weight rather than gaining. Sounds like very duff advice to me.

Is she still bfing, or has she moved to ff fully ? If shes not bfing, then abs no point saying anything.

good point, but we're very close and I think she's being honest. but I guess teh advice may have been the catalyst for her own decision. she had an awful birth and was utterly exhausted etc. perhaps it was nice to hear that a bottle would probably be best.