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Trying to Stop Breastfeeding

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Peal · 10/06/2024 21:52

Baby is 14 months old.

I breastfed her exclusively until she was 6 months, and she's been having solids 3 times a day, plus snacks, since then. However, she still took a lot of milk from me, only occasionally taking formula in a bottle.

The last few months, I've been limiting her milk intake and upping how much food and water she gets during the day. I then went away for a few days a week or so ago (baby stayed with partner and in-laws), and since I've been back I've been limiting her to breastmilk at bedtime. I now want to cease her milk entirely, and I've tried the past few days. I have to go away again for longer (a full week) in a month, so I want her fully weaned by then.

I'm having some issues though. First of all, my girl likes the breast. I've given her a lot of milk over the months, and it's become a time for us to cuddle and relax together. While I haven't given her anywhere near as much as I used to, she has become more demanding the past week as she's noticed I'm limiting her access. She cries, pulls at my top and gets really upset. It's especially hard at night, because we so often used the breast to get her to sleep. I can get her to sleep ok without it (though it takes much longer,) but last night, she woke up and had a meltdown for over an hour. I almost gave in and fed her, but I really feel I need to commit to breaking her dependency on it. I ended up taking her downstairs and sticking on her favourite low-energy cartoons to distract her. Truthfully, I miss it too, and I've been sad about the prospect of stopping. It's emotionally difficult for us both, though I do think it's time to get her off.

Does anyone have any advice on how to do this? Is there a way for me to dry up my milk supply faster and remove the temptation for me to just feed her when she's upset? I feel when I cuddle her I'm taunting her with milk. Do I just distract her as much as possible?

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CadyEastman · 14/06/2024 19:28

@Peal is she having milk during the night? If so, I'd try some Gentle Night Weaningg* first.

Springbaby2023 · 15/06/2024 21:05

No advice but following as I’m in the same situation, just a little behind you. Currently feeding at bedtime still (though no longer feeding to sleep) and at night wakes but at no other time. Constantly torn though because I do feel sad to be ending, as soon as he starts pulling at my top or getting really upset I cave!

Angrymum22 · 15/06/2024 21:25

I just continued to feed in the evening and first thing in the morning. As you reduce the feeds your body adjusts. I continued to bf DS until he was nearly two. But only a couple of times a day. When I did stop I missed it more than he did.

Elisabeth3468 · 15/06/2024 21:28

She is very young still, would you consider waiting a bit till she's older or replacing feeds with a bottle maybe at night time? She's seeking that comfort from you. I know how hard it is though so if you do really want to stop you need to start scheduling feeds for certain times and not feed on demand. Then you gradually reduce them over a few months. I weaned by boy at 2 years 3 months and it was a very easy process but he was obviously very well established on food by this point and not taking much milk.
I think at 14 months they are probably still wanting quite a lot of milk.

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