i suggested to my friend once that she could breastfeed my baby

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and i feel really embarrassed about it now. at the time her toddler was self weaning and she felt sad about it..my very young baby was ff because i did'nt manage to breast feed her sucessfully. i felt terribly emotional at the time, i just wanted her to have the best even though i knew it would probably do my head in...anyway my friend politely declined and now i feel stupid for even mentioning it. it was over 3 years ago..

there is loads of taboo and twitchiness around this but there is nothing wrong with it imo. i don't think you're stupid at all. don't worry about it!

and get yourself a copy of fresh milk....will very quickly get you over this!

Interesting first post.

do you think she even remembers? if so, i'm sure she was impressed by your commitment to your baby, to suggest something that would make you feel sad really. i think it was a lovely/bonkers solution and if she's a good mate i'm sure she'll have taken it in that way.

Shit happens. Dont feel stupid. You didnt do anything stupid.

don't worry about it. she breastfed for some years if her toddler was self-wening - I'm sure she understood what an emotional thing feding a baby is, however you end up doin it.

why is it bonkers?/suspect?

wetnurses anyone????

I wouldn't think a friend stupid if they had asked me to do this for them.
I probably would have politely declined too, but thought no more about it.
Nothing for you to be ashamed of.
And it was a long time ago.
All water under the bridge.

sounds like a reasonable suggestion to me... she politely declined, so she cant have been too horrified.

i think its pretty cool that you thought of it tbh!

don't feel silly about it. I would have felt touched. She probably felt touched too but, caught off guard, may have felt embarrassed and didn't know how to react as it may have been something that would never had crossed her mind before.

To me it shows the depth of your trust and love of your friend as well as the depth of your sorrow that breastfeeding did not work out for you.

A co-worker of mine has a daughter who is going through leukaemia treatment. When dd was giving up her expressed milk feeds at nursery and i had quite a bit of milk sitting frozen which I knew deep down that they were likely never going to be used. I felt a deep urge to offer them to my co-worker even though I knew that her dd's doctors would probably been disapproving of the idea and she may have thought I was a loon. She said it was alright, that her dd was eating which made me feel better about having this milk that did eventually go down the drain.

bonkers because it's not really a workable solution for someone with a young child to take on another baby unless they live in the same house or whatever.

ahh, yes, i get that aitch.

id have felt honoured to be asked i think. i may well ahve felty awkward about talking about it... mainly because you just never know what to say to people about bf which might offend or upset them... unless its a really good friend youve talked about it all in depth, like.

Sophable...do you actually have any children?

i did say lovely/bonkers, soph, not bonkers/suspect...