please help me inform my dh and mil about bf!

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my mother in law is driving me mad with unhelpful comments about me bf my 15 wk ds2.

today, she expressed horror that i am feeding him 'as much as 3hrly!'. i mean she gasped at it! i said i am not really clock watching but it is probably about that. she said he should be having 4 feeds a day only.i pointed out that ds1 was having 3hrly ff at this age (introduced mix feeding at 12 weeks due to poor wt gain and very heavy pressure from family and paed etc. after 3wks he was refusing breast totally. DO NOT want this to happen again!)

yesterday's comment was that he should be sleeping through the night by now. he has been sleeping for a 4hr spell in my bed, but this week i am trying to move him into his cot and now he is waking hourly and then wants to suck to sleep. i knew it was going to get worse before it gets better, but when i said i was tired, the solution (as always) is to give formula. 'Do you think you have enough milk? don't you think a bottle at night would help?'

so, can you helpful mners find a web page i can send her to educate her about feeding times, routine and night times? (and she is a gp, so i am doing this not just for my good!) Have looked on kellymom but seem to apply to newborns.

TIA

'i refuse to buy formula because i am tight' is my reponse when people ask me when I am going to stop.

MD still doing well. Ds2 is sleeping now!! and he is fully bf again, no formula topups.

at kat's response!

Yeah she can be an arse sometimes

oh i can relate to this so much!

mil has a way of doing it that drives me particularly insane, she speaks to dd and not to me, eg today "mummy's going to have you get you onto these bottles soon" and "you won't cry when i look after you"

i hate it when mums get critasised for this grrr

Oh Sparkly that is so brill.
God, oyu must be proud of yourself.

Very angry on behalf of yuo poor women having to deal with your MILs. What do yuour ds/dps say?

my mother said all the same things as you MIL. Tell her to miind her own business... lol
My mum had me doubting myself at times, but as mothers we know best so they should leave us alone.

I was also told that I'm 'making a rod for my own back' because I was holding dd and feedinhg her alot due to colic. This is when I had enough and exploded at my mum and told her where to go.

well thanks all. sent MIL a couple of things and she replied
'very interesting article. Makes me think how wrong we all got it but thank goodness you all survived! Not very compatible with getting back to work however!'

so partial success. Good luck everyone else with your troublesome relatives.