do you sometimes feel that your dp/h doesnt understand how hard bfing is......

[mum2samandalex]

im getting a bit down with the whole bfing thing as ds wont take a bottle.Dh had to go away for 6wks when ds was 2wks old leaving me also with a toddler. I thought things would get easier when he got back but sometmes it feels like me having a lie down is me being lazy.I did 6 wks of getting up in the night with a newborn and getting up early with both children on my own and doing all the daily chores.So surely i can now take advantage and have a lie in or catch up on sleep.Im up 2 or 3 times in the night but i ensure that dh isnt woken up. Baby is at a clingly stage and wont sleep during the day unless on my lap or in the car.

Im 9wks postpartum and ive still yet to get my hightlights done or go to the gym basically normal things.Im too scared to go anywhere for too long as ds wont take a bottle.Its really getting me down that i cant just have day to myself to refresh and i just wish dh could understand this.Im not sure if im just being hormanal or just tired and stressed or maybe both.

i just wish dh would understand that its not easy anyhow but even harder when your brestfeeding and sometimes you just want your space.

poor you
tired and stressed
It will get better - but you'll already know that, having a toddler
Your DH needs to help more!

you know mum2, I don't think I got to they gym till after 12 wks and went maybe 4 times and haven't been since. DD will be 3 in a couple weeks

I also used to get up 2 or 3 times a night to feed and round about 8 months was about to go over the edge with delirium so I started to co-sleep full time. Dh wasn't happy with that at the start but I thought, he is a grown up, tough. I has to cope because he is old enough to learn how to.
My only regret with that is that I didn't co-sleep from day one.

Dh worked away till dd was 10 wks old. He would come home of a friday night and wonder why the house was a tip and his wife looked like she was on the verge of a nervous breakdown - because she felt like she was! Sorry, now I can laugh about it but back then, I was soooo stressed.

I think what I am trying to say is that you are not alone. Try to co-sleep even if it is just for a part of the night or even if in a separate bed if you are worried about it. And keep asking here if you have other questions.