No routine. No hope.

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justtryingtodad · 02/02/2024 21:38

My son is now 4 weeks old. He doesn’t have a pattern for feeding or sleeping. I can’t get anything done other than look after him badly when I’m not at work. Won’t go down anywhere to sleep for more than about 20 minutes. I’ve just gone back to work. My wife is pretty much broken from dealing with it during the day. What are we doing wrong? I don’t think I can take many more days of this. I’m viewing my own sleep as a pointless waste of time.

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Qnc12345 · 05/12/2024 22:47

Wittow · 02/12/2024 11:11

4 weeks is too young for a routine. Plenty of skin to skin to help you both regulate. Enjoy the snuggles. Don't worry about a routine til new year at the earliest. Sleep when the baby sleeps.

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How are you supposed to sleep when the baby sleeps, if the baby will only sleep in your arms?

Noodlesnotstrudels · 05/12/2024 22:58

TeainanIV · 02/12/2024 09:25

@TinyMouseTheatre thank you ❤️ Will definitely try DH shirt instead. She's been checked the tongue tie and we were told she didn't have one. Can I ask how long your first was like this? Our first DD was a pretty awful sleeper too, but she would at least do stretches in her next to me! DD2 is a while other kettle of fish!!

DD2 saw 6 or 7 different NHS professionals before a private tongue tie practitioner identified a 90% tongue tie after a hellish 8weeks. She couldn't believe everyone else has missed it. Our initial appointment was only something like £45 (then more for the division) but worth every penny.

TeainanIV · 05/12/2024 23:46

@Noodlesnotstrudels thanks for sharing, I think we're starting to realise how inaccurate and difficult it can be to get a tongue tie identified going off everyone else's experiences! Definitely something we're going to get looked at again - her reflux is terrible and we've had three days of hell with it. Looking like another hellish night tonight too 😫

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