Nearly 9 weeks in and bf-ing not getting easier - how do I go about getting some rl help?

[peggotty]

Me, whinging again . My ds' behaviour during feeds is really getting me down. I thihnk/know it's down to a fast letdown and oversupply but can't seem to get a system in place to sort it out. If i block feed, it seems ok for a bit, then he gets annoyed and wants more milk so I start feeding on both breasts again, then I have oversupply again and he starts crying, spluttering, fighting at the breast again - horrible vicious circle. Sort of unrelated but I also dread feeding in public. I'm so concerned that anyone should get even the slightest flash of my boob that I have myself contorted into the most uncomfortable positions when I'm feeding - also ds' antics during feeds of latching on/off constantly and crying (so people are more likely to look) doesn't help this. I am having a daily battle with myself not to turn to formula. Anyway I have whinged about this enough on here, but I don't know how I should go about getting help in rl - I feel like I would like to get someone out to observe ds feeding, in case I'm doing something wrong. How do I get in contact with a bfc? I feel like I have to give this a last shot before I give up

Hi Peggotty, if you've not checked it out before (and even if you have ), do take a look at hunker's website - numbers for bf counsellors are down the right-hand side. I can vouch for how invaluable it is to have someone expert just come and watch your lo feed for more than the few minutes that midwives can usually spare. I had all sorts of problems with ds in the early weeks, but a morning with a bf consultant sorted most of them out on the spot (seriously) and ds is still now exc bf at 5 months. Really worth a try, not least to boost your confidence about what you're doing right (you've got to nearly 9 weeks already and that's bloody good going).

Oh, and on the feeding in public thing... it took me weeks before I felt brave enough to try it but since I took the plunge, I don't think a single person has seen even the teensiest flash. TBH most people are not paying any attention whatsoever, even when you think your lo is making such a fuss that all eyes must be on you!