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Desperate for help with nursing strike

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Ciaraheff · 29/11/2023 21:57

Hi all, really looking for some help and reassurance with a nursing strike. Bit of a long one for context but would really appreciate some advice, I’m devastated.

TLDR: sick 7mo old on a nursing strike. Coming out of the sickness but still all out refusing- pushing away and getting upset when I try. Very upset and stressed mum :(

I have a 7 month old who has been an excellent breast feeder. He got sick last week (RSV and bronchiolitis) and started to refuse the breast. To ensure he was staying fed and hydrated we gave him expressed milk, and now we have an all out strike on our hands.

When I offer he is visibly upset and pushes my boob away, arching his back. I am so upset and stressed out, more than I ever thought I would be. I am reading on some other threads that a dip in hormones could also cause this but this is hands down the worst I have felt this whole BFing journey.

Ive seen a lot of tips but would love to hear from others with babies who had a strike around the same age or after sickness. At first I was going to just stop offering bottles as freely and hope he took the boob the hungrier he got, but now I’m seeing a softer approach might be better? He refused the boob just now for a dream feed and ended up waking up frustrated because of my attempts. I might sneak in and snuggle in the spare bed with him later tonight. Tomorrow I’m planning on tons of skin to skin, having the boob available but not pushing it. The issue is he is not really a cuddler- just wants to be climbing (his new trick) and playing.

Sorry for the ramble I’m just really at my wits end. We’ve worked so hard to get this far and I will be devastated if it has to end here.

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PurBal · 29/11/2023 22:04

Didn’t want to read and run. My toddler had Covid at 8mo so I know how worrying sickness can be. Looking at the overall picture how is he? What are nappies like? Will he take solids (eg watermelon)? Nursing lying down worked for me so I think your plan sounds sensible. Good luck. Sorry I can’t offer more than empathy.

Ciaraheff · 29/11/2023 22:16

@PurBal thank you for the empathy!

overall picture is good- he’s taking expressed milk and having wet nappies. His form is good too after a few bad days. So grateful for that- as you said it’s a worrying experience. I just really want to get the nursing back on track.

re: solids- we were just getting into it over the last few weeks but it went out the window with the sickness. Gave him some fruit and yoghurt today and went well

thanks again!

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SiouxsieSiouxStiletto · 30/11/2023 18:58

How are you both today @Ciaraheff? Flowers

Ciaraheff · 30/11/2023 19:36

Much the same @SiouxsieSiouxStiletto :( We have had some progress- this morning he put his mouth on my nipple while we cuddled, and later he bit each nipple. It HURT but I didn't react. I'm taking it as progress since before he was screaming and pushing away, so at least he approached. He looked quite confused as to why the nipple was in his mouth so I'm really hoping he hasn't forgotten...

Things I did today- loads of skin-to-skin and cuddles/playing, bathed together, and got him checked out for an ear infection at the doctor (negative). We have been doing paced feeding for bottles too and also not letting him get the milk for the first 30-60 secs to mimic let down. I also listened to this podcast where they mention that babies do want to nurse but you just have to wait until whatever is causing the strike has passed... So I'm keeping the faith! Thank you for checking in!

Spotify

https://open.spotify.com/episode/7GNBigXzIj87JvjSbiQb0J?si=f063c5abe93c433f

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