Am I being unreasonable?

[DChesh34]

When to introduce baby rice has been a topic of contention in our household. I know the older advice is to introduce from 3 months, but the new advice is 6. Whilst I completely appreciate some babies need it quicker, I don’t think my DS (5 months today) does.
I wanted to introduce more formula as my son has slowed down in weight gain and worried my milk isn’t doing it for him anymore.
My MiL and DH are constantly going on about baby rice and my husband jibes that I just have separation anxiety. I’ve stood my ground but I come down this morning and my DH has fed him half a pouch.
I’m fuming that he just made this decision. I’m also fuming he took that milestone and I wasn’t there to witness him eat “solids”! However, I also appreciate he misses out on a lot too (first roll over for one) so should I let him have this one?
Think he could tell my mood was off when he left for work. Do I let it go or not?!

@Frasers because he was working away in the week. Even if he hadn't have been, he was working full time, I was feeding 2 hourly and taking DS to the weigh ins, he would not have had that same level of engagement
to have made the level of informed decisions I was, feeding was my entire life back then!

I would be very unhappy with that. First solids is one of those milestones you can control so I think it's only fair to do it together unless otherwise agreed.

No need for baby rice at all, don't know anyone who used it, very retro..

Five months wouldn't be my preference but I don't think that's such a big deal as such and I wouldn't be surprised if the six month recommendation was rolled back a little because of the increased incidence of allergies.

But it's a call you make together.

To put things in perspective..I’m not sure if you’ve seen the news the past month but I will tell you.. there are children in Palestine right now that can’t even get milk or any food and are starving to death with bombs being dropped on their head..

just let that sink in ..

at least your child is being fed and has multiple options.

if everyone on here opposing this rice so strongly put that energy to good use you could all help by donating £2/3..however much that cost to feed those poor starving babies across the world.

come on we have it so easy here in the west we need to start being less dramatic about our privileged lives

@Mumof1UK oh give over, are you posting that on EVERY thread where the OP has something frustrating them? Stop with your arrogant, dismissive, virtue signalling.

Fuck off. Seriously what is the point of your post?!

Gosh @Mumof1UK ,I hope you've never complained about anything, because children have been starving, and dying, and raped, and murdered, and horrendously abused your entire life.

Hope you've never moaned about the weather or debated parenting decision or winced at a stubbed toe.

Wow you are aggressive! Do you realise swearing at somebody is a form of abuse?
I have a right to report you for what you wrote.

my point was straightforward but obviously above your mental capacity and as such you resorted to a low iq option of verbal abuse.

Of course I have complained I am a human, and I like to remind myself and in this instance others of when we are really complaining about nothing. And what the real world is.
Complaining about what option of food to feed my child is a very self absorbed way of acting sorry to say it, this is the real world.

@hiddle actually no this was the only post I posted it on where I was like oh really somebody upset and wasting all the energy of everyone by complaining about their various food options to feed their child.

so there you go :D

And @ColleenDonaghy actually it is very good for others to be more positive and optimistic about the things they DO have, being grateful it’s called, call me old fashioned.

Call me old fashioned, but I think your post was extremely rude. We all know there's bigger things going on in the world when we have smaller problems but we have to deal with them nonetheless.

Baby rice isn't recommended any more. It is much better and healthier for the child for the first solids to be fruit and vegetables.
Baby rice doesn't add anything to the diet and breast milk is enough for six months. So no you are not being unreasonable at all

I have dgc and baby rice definitely outdated.
Veg pouch is normal.
At this stage it's more about trying different tastes, milk is still the main diet.

@Mumof1UK you forgot to mention the dc in Yemen. Been going on a while now.

Early weaning unless medically advised is not a good idea.

Even then don't give baby rice. It has zero nutritional value and just takes up room in baby's tummy that should be full of high nutrients and high calorie milk.

If you must wean early then at least go with fruit and veg.

My little one started at 4 months on purées of banana or sweet potato. Never gave baby rice at all. Use oats not rice.

@Mumof1UK Yes, we live very privileged lives and I count my blessings every day but virtue signalling on a platform designed for Mums and Guardians to ask advice and have a moan is a bit counter productive. What sort of response were you expecting?
You’ve used your energy to post comments to strangers when you could have ignored it and put your efforts into something more productive too - bit hypocritical.
I’ve done plenty of fundraising and donating for children across the world so excuse me if I’ve sat here and had a moan whilst I’ve been feeding my son. I hope you’ve put your money where your mouth is!

Just for everyone’s info! I read the packet and it was a pear and peach purée with a small percentage of rice flour in there. Not sure if this is better but at least it was organic fruit. Still would have preferred blended veggies but he had the smallest amount - a few teaspoons. The DH is aware I’m peed off and we’re agreeing on a more suitable plan.
We’re both new to this and want the best for our DS and I’m happier than he plays a very active and engaged role in our sons upbringing. Mistakes are inevitable!

Hello @DChesh34 - we've moved your thread to Infant feeding.