DH is a lactivist! Some of his work colleagues talked about bfing at the dinner table...

[BumperliciousNeedsaGlassofWine]

...they were saying something along the lines of it being inappropriate or disgusting, and he gave them what for! He explained to them how babies have a right to eat (as do mothers! I would never have eaten in the early days otherwise) and told me that we have to go out with them sometime just so I could bf at the table!

Good for him. DP is a lactivist too, he researched BFing really thoroughly before DD was born and is massively knowledgeable and reassuring and supportive when I have problems (I have had lots of problems!) - I tell him he should volunteer for the NCT phoneline.

Dh is a lactivist but it sometimes comes out in quite unPC ways. Like the time we had a great view of another mum's cleavage who was bottlefeeding at the time. He leaned over to me and mumbled: Imagine having such great equipment and giving your baby a bottle instead.

oh bumper, you must be so proud!!!

mine dp is also very supportive and a total lactivist! I think it is wonderful

wonder if there are any male bfing supporters/advisors out there...

LOL as kiskidees DH!

Determination don't think so as you usually have to have bfed for 6 months to be a supporter - difficult for a man . Plus I guess you would have all kinds of issues surrounding men gaping a norks. But there should be something for them in terms of support and advice, I think having a supportive partner can make or break bfing.

On that note actually, I could do with some advice. My bf is pg and I know her DH quite well. We have email contact around her birthday/christmas for present buying advice (me to him)! I am wondering whether or not to drop him an email with some top tips for getting her through bfing in the early weeks, you know stuff like "she'll probably always ask for a glass of water when she sits down to feed. She will never remember to get it herself before hand. That's your job!". Maybe get my DH to chip in with some tips. You know how you always want your DH to know what to do without having to ask? Well I could create the ultimate man!

Is that totally patronising and intrusive?

Good for your DH bumper, especially given that he had some reservations in the early days

bumper, you could drop him a line saying that you'd read this on MN or something, and wished that someone had given you this advice before DD was born, then list a few points.

In fact I'm pretty sure there must be an MN thread somewhere you could link him to!

Seem to recall reading somewhere that the #1 factor determining whether a mum bfed (medical issues notwithstanding) was having a supportive partner.

Mine would probably not have said anything, but he went with me to bfc's and watched and came home and stood over me going, 'that wasn't a great latch, try again darling' until we got it right. Bless 'im.

DH too is a lactivist. Very supportive as it means he does not have to get up in the night.

My dp thought that if you didn't bf, the baby would die.

Poor old fool was having kittens when he realised I couldn't bf....

lol fairymum.

My DH is dying for someone dare be negative when we are out, so he can take them on verbally about the wonders of bf! When ds went through fussy times and battled with his hands whilst trying to latch on, dh would gently hold his hands and the latch became possible with ease. DH also another one for saying when he sees a not so great latch!