pregnant & breastfeeding... not sure I want to carry on

[twostrokefour]

I'm about 8 weeks gone, 10 mo dd loves bf & I intended to feed her until she self weaned but now have sore nipples and thinking towards the future, i'm not sure if I could commit to tandem nursing.

I would feel sad to stop now but it's probably best to do it now to give her chance to forget the boobs before the new little one arrives, just wanted to know if anyone else has been in the same position and is she likely to self wean anyway?

big plus.. is she going to be really distressed if I start a slow wean from the breast? Sorry lots of questions!

My dd1 self weaned at 11 mths and I've read a lot of babies go off the whole thing when you're pregnant anyway so you may have a good chance at her self weaning. I don't think she will be too upset by a slow winding down tbh - are you doing 2 or 3 feeds a day (my dd is 10mo as well and that's about what we clock up) maybe drop the one where she feeds the least - in my case for example that would be breakfast and then reassess in a few weeks. There are people on here who tandem feed though - perhaps they will come along and give you some info on that side of things as well.

She has been more restless when latched on i.e. keeps coming off then on again but I get the feeling she's putting up with the changes in taste as long as she gets the sucking comfort which seems more important at the mo, especially when tired! Tried giving her some milk in her cup today but she wasn't too impressed and kept head butting my boobs....

doing about 3 to 4 feeds per day, snuggly in bed first thing, morning mummydummy nap afternoon for the pm sleep and bedtime sleepy feed, don't even know how I could drop any of those at the mo without her getting really upset?!

I'm getting nowhere with a cup as well.....I would keep her the b/feeding when she's tired if I were you. You just aren't going to get anywhere with her then - and try and cut down the feeds when she is more awake and can be distracted.

x post - it's tricky when the feeds and naps are linked. Is there anybody who could give you a hand for few sfternoons and get her settled without the feed - give you a bit of time for yourself too. Your mum or a friend?

Got to go to bed now - my 10 month old will be waking and looking for milk....hope you get this sorted

i was pg again by the time ds1 was only 4m old. he seemed to go off my milk at about 5-6m and i didnt push it as it didnt even occur to me that tandem feeding was a possibility tbh.

so maybe she'll go off it herself.

im not sure it'll be quite as simple tho as i think perhaps when they feed for longer (as in past 6m) i think they get attached to the feeding in a different way. i think theres more of a conscious (for her)comfort/affection/attention/bonding element to it, rather than 'just' being about sustenance (is my theory anyway!) and so it might be something she holds onto with a bit more determination if she enjoys it so.

dunno. mine came off the breast at about 5-6, 6 and 8m so what do i know about 'extended' feeding?