I'm still feeding my second child at the moment who is 15 months. I fed my first till 8 months and stopped early as I got pregnant (with an successful pregnancy in between). So husband hasn't seen me feeding first child for this long....he's making it quite clear that he's uncomfortable about it. He's totally supportive of breastfeeding in the baby stage up to around 1 year it's been fine but after my daughter turned 1 I can tell he doesn't like it....quite a few questions and comments like "when do you plan on stopping" "you don't need to be doing that anymore" "she will sleep better without it etc" ....the last one I know isn't true as my first woke up constantly despite me stopping feeding at 8 months!
I would like to feed till around 2/2.5 which would have been the plan with my first also and is in line with WHO guidance and I read something about a baby's immune system not being fully developed until they are 2 so they use mums immune system. I've told him all the research says it's still beneficial so I'm not going to stop just because he has a weird sexualised view of it (which is the only reason I can think of for it making him uncomfortable - he hasn't said this).
I don't feed in public anymore as I feel too self conscious because of this and yesterday she was poorly so feeding lots as she had a sick bug. Usually husband doesn't see me feed much as it's mainly in the night / first thing in morning now but yesterday she wanted it none stop. We were sat in the lounge just me, husband, eldest 3 year old and 15 month old and I fed her and he winced! and said "can you not go and do that somewhere private" in the same tone as if I was doing a wee in the living room or something. I was and still am so angry! It's my house with my husband and children - that should be private for a start. I told him if it makes him uncomfortable he can go sit in another room not me and said I don't want him saying things like that in front of 3 year old and passing his weird emotionally repressed views down.
He seems uncomfortable with anything to do with motherhood to be honest....didnt want to go near me during pregnancy sexually even very early on and never touched my bump to feel baby as it freaked him out. He's a very good dad otherwise just seems really weird about anything like this and I know he can't help that to some degree but I would hope he would work out that it's his issue and he can't then tell me what to do.