Please help

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My son will be two in April and is still breastfed. A lot. I've definitely had enough now and just want to stop, but have no idea how. When I've tried to say 'no milk' or 'milk sleeping' (don't ask!) he gets so angry and upset and just won't leave me (them) alone. Currently has a feed when he wakes up, which I'm guessing he's using as breakfast because he barely eats anything in the morning after that. If he's not at nursery he will then go for my boobs again a couple of hours later, then a feed for his lunchtime nap, then again when he wakes up and then again at bedtime. During the night he wakes 2/3 times and wants to feed for comfort. He sleeps in his own cot but I'm finding myself becoming more and more frustrated. Probably out of tiredness? I know he can go without because when he's at nursery or with my mum for the day every Weds he's absolutely fine. I know that the feeding and sleep situation are most probably linked, so am thinking that's the best place to start. Any tips or other experiences would be great as I'm at my wits end with it tbh...

Oh I was just about to post my own story like this! Sorry for no help but definitely solidarity ❤️
my 20 month old is like this, she is constantly on boob! We cosleep because of it too so she has easy access and that means I don’t have to move haha 😂 she wakes up 1/2 times a night for a dry nurse.
I’ve had a few relatives tell me stories how their little one just one day just went “nah no more” and that was that. And I literally can’t imagine that ! I’m waiting like, ok so when are you going to refuse ? Lol 😆

my little one is with me all day and doesn’t go to nursery but perhaps your little one going makes him want that connection with you through nursing.

im currently pregnant so I have no idea how I’m going to juggle newborn and toddler wrestling at my breasts (what once were now just big icing pipers they feel like lol 😂 😭)

it takes a toll on your body and mind and well done to us for breastfeeding this far ! It is very normal for these ages to breastfeed but it doesn’t make it easier ❤️

I’ve been told distraction is key but there’s o lot so many times you can enthusiastically play with toys games or tv things to interrupt a toddlers mission boobie without giving in

so following your thread for any enlightenment also!

sleep is a funny one, it’s almost like a question you’re not allowed to ask! Everyone needs monetary compensation for revealing the secrets to sleep 😴

side note, I follow the breastfeeding network on Facebook and they have a great support team where you can message them x

We like the books Booby moon and nursies when the sun shines. Preparation that it was going to stop and then staying consistent was important. It's hard - good luck!

It's not really advised to go cold turkey as you'd be very uncomfortable and might end up with Mastitis.

So if you are dropping feeds gradually, I'd start with the book purple suggested and begin some very gentle night weaning.

Once you've cracked the night weaning I'd drop the first feed and just go straight down for breakfast. We found it easier if DH took them straight downstairs and fed them.

Then a couple of hours after breakfast, when you know he likes a feed offer a nice drink and a snack like hot chocolate or diluted fruit juice.

Also agree with the PP who suggested getting some support through the BFN, in fact I've found all the BFing Support Helplines helpful if I've ever contacted them.

Good luck

Have a look at Emma Pickett on Instagram. She's a lactation consultant with a special interest in weaning.

She's recently done a lot of stuff about weaning older children.

Some great information and resources to look at and see what works for you.