Oh my god... I am SUCH a bloody Mumsnetter!

[Disenchanted]

My mum had her friend round last night, I nipped round to see my sister and we were all chatting in the kitchen.

Mums friends daughter is newly PG and I asked if she was going to breastfeed.

So breastfeeding conversation starts.

I am the only 1 out of the 4 that breastfed ( I tried it with both my children but didnt make it past a week for various reasons and I feel so guilty for it)

So they start talking about how 'It was never for them' and my sister says she thinks its 'gross'

My mum starts on extended breastfeeding and how her friend fed her 3 year old who stood up at the breast with her newborn on the other and they all started 'eewwwing' ect

So I burst into a rant on how thats called'tandem feeding' and how proud I would be if I or any memeber of my family managed to breast feed that long never mind tandem feed! How its the most natural thing in the world and its THEM who have distored views on breastfeeding.

And if I ever have another child i WILL be attempting to breastfeed again and told my mum I would appreciate a little more support this time round rather than her suggesting a bottle all the time!!

Then i burst into tears! pmsl.

They were sympathetic but I think I looked a bit like a raving looney!!

well done you

God the power this place has is amazing
I prophesy that in less than 3 years ALL women will wear mooncups ...

Excellent Disenchanted, what did they say?

Well done

I burst into tears Fio as I still feel incredibly inadequate and not being able to (or not trying hard enough) to breastfeed my children for more than a week. aND BREASTFEEDING IS A VERY SORE SUBJECT WITH ME AND IT WAS THE FIRST TIME i HAD TOLD ANYBODY IN REAL LIFE HOW I FELT.

oops caps sorry

Well done!!

I'm the same, the only one who breastfed. My GRANDMOTHER ( horrible woman) actually said over a family meal when i was pg. "i dont know what you want to give yourself saggy tits for" so dp started talking about bottle fed lambs/breastfed lambs in health as he used to have a farmm to shut her up. my reply was " well whats your excuse then??" and " my unborn baby is more important to me than pert breasts" she also said " its awful, our sandy was pressured into bfeed, and because she couldnt she was in a state,poor thing"
Im sure they all think im strange for still feeding, and dd is only 22 weeks! And im going to carry on!!
my mother on the other hand is completely in awe, and loves the fact that im breastfeeding!
This site is amazing, ive learned so much from just reading, well done!!

Disenchanted,
Gosh I am so proud of you. It is so difficult to stand up for what you belief in especially when it involves family members.

My family make occassional comments I have took the cowards way out by nodding agreement and then continue to do what I want anyway.

Your way is so much better
You rock

I thought it was the pg that made breasts sag, not Bfing??

honey2theb, Grr. Tell your grandmother it is pregnancy that makes breast sag, not breastfeeding.

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that's such a fallacy though .. I breastfed 2 children .. and my norks are fabulous thank you very much

{Looks at own breasts and starts to hate Twiglett}

I jest, mine do the job. Well, several actually

Well done! I usually go for the smile and nod approach because I don't have the guts to do that!

Actaully, now you have made me think of it. I have BF three children and my breasts don't sag at all and are bigger than before I was pregnant!

lol, my 34f's are still the same. ( except when empty, then they look like deflated balloons! haha) shes an idiot my gran. I try not to talk to her really, shes the type that bribes my brother ( 4) with sweets. you can have 3 packs of biscuits if you eat a banana first! she said one day. oh he wont eat a thing so i made him eat some chocolate!

Most other family members know not to go on at me though! lol

You know, I hadn't thought at all about breastfeeding until I found mn when I was about 8 months pregnant or so. I remember people breastfeeding in front me but always very young babies, I had no idea that extended breastfeeding existed.

My MIL, bless her, took me out shopping before my son was born and insisted on buying bottles. I intended to breastfeed, and thought the bottles would be handy for "after." I was very clueless indeed.

If it wasn't for mumsnet I definitely would have switched to ff after a very short time. As it happens, I really struggled to establish feeding after an induction, emergency c-section and my son being under a lamp for 24 hours. Thanks to advice on here, I expressed and expressed for what felt like weeks and although we ended up mixed feeding, I am still at it at 15 months. If I'd relied on advice from friends and family we wouldn't have done it at all, I think.

Note - I would not recommend mixed feeding. I don't know how it worked for us but I think it was more fluke than anything else.

Good for you!

Did you get a 'hmm, she's been on that forum again' look?
I do whenever I go off on one about VBAC's or too many CS's being done or BLW or BFing or anything else dp can blame one that forum